MOH Problems

r&ksoulmates

ok, I have already asked 3 girls to be in the wedding, not reliseing my fiance has asked anyone. the first 2 i asked both want to me MOH'S . and the 3rd girl is quite and passive, but she doesnt like  one of the girls. At this point I dont want to have anyone.  Because even if i say well no one is the MOH , well someone is still standing next to me. I have  alot of other girls that i would like to have but i wanted to keep it small

NatandIsaac

If you don't want to have a MOH, then you don't have to have one.

Also, people generally use conventional spelling and grammar on these boards. I don't mean to embarrass you, you are new to the board of course, and I am sure that there are other internet forums that do things differently. 

bablingbrooke

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[QUOTE]ok, I have already asked 3 girls to be in the wedding, not reliseing my fiance has asked anyone. the first 2 i asked both want to me MOH'S . and the 3rd girl is quite and passive, but she doesnt like  one of the girls. At this point I dont want to have anyone.  Because even if i say well no one is the MOH , well someone is still standing next to me. I have  alot of other girls that i would like to have but i wanted to keep it small
Posted by r&ksoulmates[/QUOTE]
Sorry no takebacks without looking really bad.  You asking your BMs has nothing to do with your FI asking his guys.  (I think that answers your question--your post was a bit hard to read.)

tldh

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[QUOTE]ok, I have already asked 3 girls to be in the wedding, not reliseing my fiance has asked anyone. the first 2 i asked both want to me MOH'S . and the 3rd girl is quite and passive, but she doesnt like  one of the girls. At this point I dont want to have anyone.  Because even if i say well no one is the MOH , well someone is still standing next to me. I have  alot of other girls that i would like to have but i wanted to keep it small
Posted by r&ksoulmates[/QUOTE]

I had to read this 5 times just to make any sense out of this.  Seriously, we're not being mean but please understand that people are more likely to help when we can understand you. 

No one should have been requesting the MOH position.  I'd give it to someone who isn't one of those two.

It doesn't matter if the girls like eachother or don't get along.  All they have to do is show up in their dress, stand with you and smile for pictures.

Your wedding is next November.  You should have waited a few more months to ask anyone.

marinabreeze

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[QUOTE]In Response to MOH Problems : I had to read this 5 times just to make any sense out of this.  Seriously, we're not being mean but please understand that people are more likely to help when we can understand you.  No one should have been requesting the MOH position.  I'd give it to someone who isn't one of those two. It doesn't matter if the girls like eachother or don't get along.  All they have to do is show up in their dress, stand with you and smile for pictures. Your wedding is next November.  You should have waited a few more months to ask anyone.
Posted by tldh[/QUOTE]

Ditto this especially.  Please listen to PPs.

Also, I'm not clear on what FI asking his WP has to do with you and yours.

orangecrush32

I'm not even sure what the question is here.

Krys2110

I agree with a previous post. the girls that asked to be MOHs should be the last 2 considered. You should pick your closest friend or family member that isnt your fiance. MOH is supposed to be someone who means something to you! its a big honor! not something you ask for!

sister2groom

If you don't care who'se MOH, don't have one and roll a die for order of walking out.

Cynthia1207

Please type your posts so people can understand them.  I seriously had to read it 3 times in order to get some sort of sense to what you were saying.

I'm not sure exactly what it is you are asking but here's my advice based on what I think is going on....You don't need to have a MOH.  They can just be all BMs and just alternate who stands next to you for the pictures if that's such a big deal.  For the ceremony, have chairs so they sit and therefore they can't start huffing and puffing about one being closer to you. 

marissa_claire

The MOH is not just the girl standing next to you.  You can split up the main three things a MOH does - have one sign the marriage license, have one stand next to you (hold your bouquet, straighten your train, etc.) and have one to give a toast (if she wishes to.)    

lalap69

Wow, that was hard to read and understand.

If you've already asked and now you don't want a WP - TOO BAD.  There's no unasking, you're stuck with them.

If you don't want to have a MOH, don't have one.  Yes, someone will stand next to you.  Someone will also need to hold your bouquet, and probably sign the license, hold your FI's ring and give a toast.  Split up these roles among them to be fair.

Why would you even mention your FI not asking his side?  What does that have to do with anything?

deepcovejackie

Stick with the wedding party you have already, and don't have a MOH.  You've already asked them, there's no way of undoing that without making yourself look really bad.

sprtychick10

No one ask's the bride to be the MOH. The bride always does the asking, if she even wants on. It doesn't sounds like they have your best interest at heart if they are telling you they want to be the MOH. Get a backbone, tell them who is what and leave it at that. I agree with all the PP's, what does your choosing your BP have to do with you FI picking his??

sprtychick10

maybe I am wrong but I am saying this is MUD