Is it typical to take your girls out before the big day?

jtiff03

Hello-

Okay, I am not talking about the bachelorette party or showers but just taking a day to say "thank you" to your brides maids and moms.

My cousin took everyone to a spa for massages, manis and pedis and now I am wondering if that is typical or just something she did. I can't afford a big spa day for everyone but think doing something would be fun.

I guess I am just wondering if anyone else has done something like this, and if so what???

Thanks fo ryou help!!

kelmal

I am hosting a bridesmaid luncheon as a local Italian restaurant.

Etiquette says you should have a luncheon or a tea of some sort...it can be something you have at your house (Girls Night In with wine and homemade food) or something like what your cousin did with the spa. Whatever you want, but yes a thank-you outing as always appreciated!

jaytee16

I don't think it's typical, but a very nice idea if you can work it (and the crowd would like it).  I am planning to take my BMs to a spa in the week or so leading up to the wedding.  I signed up for my city's groupon (and equivalents) emails and happened to see a great deal - $50 for a 50 min massage, 30 min mani and 30 min pedi!  Had I not found that deal, no way I could afford full prices for the spa.  I asked my MOH (who knows all the BMs well too) if she thought everyone would like it and she did.  I think it will be a nice way to say thanks but also a great excuse to spend a day with the girls!  

*I should mention this is in addition to a small gift for each of them as a personal thank you.

sarah42nd

I am doing a mani and pedi day a few days before the wedding.  I am also getting them a gift bag with all sorts of goodies in it.  It doesnt have yo be anything razy like pp said it could be a girls night in or maybe a dinner.

aerinpegadrak

It's certainly a nice gesture, but it's not required.  My girls were scattered all over the place, so they weren't all in the same room until the wedding day itself.  We all got ready together, and that was enough.

peanutty2

I've never heard of it in any of the weddings i've been in or gone too (that i know of)... it certainly sounds nice!  But i don't think it's a necessity.  Are you having a rehearsal dinner of some sort?  That's typically the time to give out thanks yous. 

LoveMuffins

After the rehearsal dinner i'm inviting any of the girls who want to come over for a sleepover before the big day. I don't have a lot of extra money, but I'm trying to do little things for them along the way since I can't afford a spa day - like we paid for their dresses, and after we all went bridesmaid dress shopping I had them all over to my house for a brunch. We're going to try to do a girls weekend sometime before the wedding, and I'm probably going to take them out to a pizza dinner on the beach if we manage to get that together. If we don't I'm probably going to have some kind of girls night instead of a weekend with movies, etc. where I'll have dinner, dessert and breakfast for them. I don't think it has to be expensive, but it's nice to get them all together and let them know that this is your way of saying Thank You and also just to have some lady bonding time!

graysquirrel

I have never heard of that as a requirement. Etiquette states that you get your BMs a gift as a thank you, but I have not heard anyone say that you have to throw them a party. If you want to do something like that, but you certainly don't have to and shouldn't feel bad if you don't. 

Simply Fated

I don't think it's a requirement, I never heard of it being one, anyway. Although, in my circle it is "expected." Usually it's just a nice lunch a day or two before the wedding.

sarah42nd

One of the shops in my local mall has mani/pedis for $30 for both . I only have  2 BMs  . So I invited them and my mother to go get  a mai/pedi and its only costing me about $120 myself included.

SSaltzman87

I definitely agree that it's something that would be nice to do, but not necessary.

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If it is in the budget then fine, I don't see anything wrong with it. Otherwise,no. I did not do anything like that for my BM's and they are all still talking to me 8 1/2 months later.

asialee2

The week before our wedding we will all be in the same town so I am going to try and do something- even if it is small and fits in the budget,,, mini golf or something fun that we can all enjoy. The girls all get along great so hopfully it all pans out!