Sorry

mbutucel

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ariver2011

It seems to me that she is trying to get closer to you. Why don't you extend the olive branch back to her, and maybe find something that she could help you with.

jilld82

Agree with PP.  I think you are being pretty close minded.  Be an adult and learn to get along with her as best as you can because you are marrying into HER family. 

Your fmil is trying to be nice and you are shutting her down.

vicki0508

My FMIL hasn't offered to host or pay for anything (not that I mind) so maybe you should just count your blessings and quit complaining.

kmmssg

I agree with everyone else. Retread's suggestion is excellent.

You said you don't feel she is much of a mother.  If that is really true, maybe she just doesn't know how to offer help.  The dress and shower are bigger issues and she offered to help with those.  Seems to me she is at least trying here.

Find an olive branch to extend and give her an opportunity to get involved.

StephieBow

Try to give her a chance.  She's going to be part of your life for a loooong time so, I think now would be a good time to try and give her a chance.

vicki0508

Just as an FYI - it's considered rude to delete/edit your OP.  What if someone else had a similar question?