My finace does not want his sister to be apart of our wedding ceremony/party. Her feelings are really hurt, but he has his reasons and I have to respect them. He and I have compromised and I offered to have his sister wear a bridesmaid dress in a different color and be a "helper". She will be helping with the Flower girl and ring bearer, handing out programs ect. Everything was fine until she went to try on the BM dress that was selected, she does not think it looks good on her and wants something different.
I folded and said she could choose whatever she wanted in order to keep the peace, my finace was not happy, he says this is typical behavoir for his sister - making everything about her, and asked her to just go along with the dress I had selected. Now his mother and his sister are lashing out at him and at me. My finace has tried to rationalize with his family, but they do not want to hear it. His sister is now threatening to not be in the wedding and his mother is angry saying I am being selfish and rude.
My finaces mother and sister have been distant and insulting through most of the wedding planning. The wedding is a bit to "fancy" for their taste. They have critcized everything from the food, location, date and now dresses. I have bent and given in to all of the previous demands, but my fiance is angry that we are not getting what we want because of his family. I would like things to go smoothly.
I am not sure what to do at this point. Any advice?