So here's my deal...
My mom and I have always been close. We have our occasional disagreements but who doesn't? Anyway...when FI and I announced our engagement and the wedding date for a full 2 years in the future, I expected my mom of all people to get excited for us. But I got no reaction other than "Oh! Well...congrats"
I know that I can't force excitement on a person but I'm talking about a pretty emotional woman here! I was expecting SOMETHING more than that! So when I started the planning process recently my mom and I had an unspoken understanding that she would be very involved in the process. I thought that for sure she would become more excited as time passed and the realization that her only daughter was getting married in the near future. But still nothing.
What's worse is that when I come to her with ideas she seems less than interested. I would take that to mean that she doesn't want part in the planning but when she finds a wedding article or has an idea she's all about the wedding! Can you say "mixed signals"?
The other part of this is really tearing me up.
FI and I are by no means wealthy, neither are my parents, and his parents certianly have no expendable income. When the topic of budget came up between my parents and I, i knew the number they would give me would be miniscule but I appreciated what they could contribute.
The other day my mom brings up a conversation she had with a friend where she complained "I just wish she would move the wedding back another 2 years so we(my dad and mom) could afford to go on our 25th wedding anniversary trip! This winter is my anniversary not just her wedding!"
After some thought I am VERY hurt by this statement. I understand that 25 years is a big deal but I cant help but feel like she is saying that my wedding doesn't matter as much as her anniversary trip. Without their budget contribution this wedding will not happen but at the same time I feel like I am being selfish by taking the money they agreed to help us with.
All day today I've been considering the idea of just scrapping the wedding and eloping in order to make everyone(except me) happy. I have no idea what to do.
If you're still with me, thank you for reading my rant!
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