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MOB Wearing Black

NHeuplerNHeupler member
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So I'm sorry if this is a repeat question, but I haven't been able to find it posted anywhere else. 

My mom and I have been looking for dresses for her to wear to my wedding and so far the ones we have liked the best on her are black. I have NO problem with her wearing black, but she thinks it is not "ok" for her to do and my grandmothers are giving her a hard time about it (saying she'll look like she's in mourning). Black is one of my favorite colors to wear and on her fair skin it looks much better than gold or silver/grey do. My color is red in case that matters. 

Anyway, just looking to get others opinions on this matter. Let me know what you think! 
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  • SarahKathryn90SarahKathryn90
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    edited December 2011
    I don't know if there are rules about that but I wouldn't find it weird if I was at a wedding and the MOB was in black. 
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  • lalap69lalap69 member
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    edited December 2011
    Tell her that times have changed and people no longer associate black with mourning exclusively - hence the modern little black dress.  Maybe she could do a black dress with a colour accent if she's really concerned?
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  • eviltwin13eviltwin13 member
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    edited December 2011
    The mothers of the bride & groom wore black at my sister's wedding and will be doing so again at my wedding. No "mourning" involved.
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  • KellyS01KellyS01 member
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    edited December 2011
    My mom is wearing a black dress to my wedding and a different black dress to my brother's wedding in the fall.  Not a thing wrong with it! :)
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  • vicki0508vicki0508 member
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    edited December 2011
    My mom is wearing black to my wedding.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    Perfectly fine for your Mom to wear a black dress. It will very nice and classy.
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  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    edited December 2011
    3 time MOB - wore black twice, looked great if I say so myself......

    Let your mom know times have changed and the "mourning" thing is decades out-dated.  Black is very classy and elegant.  Tell her to go for it.
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  • KnibletKniblet member
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    edited December 2011
    My mom and my MIL wore black to our wedding.  Both dresses had "sparkle" of some kind, so def NOT mourning dresses.  LOL.

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  • SSaltzman87SSaltzman87 member
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    edited December 2011
    My mom will be wearing black to my wedding as well. Times have changed and wearing black isn't considered mourning anymore.
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  • acwmacwm member
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    edited December 2011
    Black is perfectly fine! She won't look like she's in mourning. If she feels good in the dress, she should wear it.
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  • NHeuplerNHeupler member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks guys... I will be showing this to my mom today!
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  • mandi921vhmandi921vh member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_mob-wearing-black?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:91db2525-44b3-4c32-a66c-4495d429f1b3Post:f7d5caa0-b3f9-4c1a-8759-87483f0cbc33">Re: MOB Wearing Black</a>:
    [QUOTE]Perfectly fine for your Mom to wear a black dress. It will very nice and classy.
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  • StephieBowStephieBow member
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    edited December 2011
    My Bridesmaids are wearing black... and they are not in mourning. No issue
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  • Muffin'sMomMuffin'sMom
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    edited December 2011
    As long as she's not wearing a big black hat with a heavy black veil and wailing in the front row...it should be fine.  She is correct, for many years it just wasn't "done".  In some areas, it is still considered not appropriate...depends on how conservative your circle is.  I did not wear black because I come from a family that would NOT approve.  So, I wore really dark brown  :)
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