BP Arrangement

hebbcl

Hey there ladies! I could use some help....

What are the best ways to arrange the bridal party? By height? Age? I have a Maid of Honor and a Matron of Honor +3 more.

Suggestions appreciated!

StephieBow

I'm organizing by personality.  Aside from the siblings and the MOH/Best Man, everyone will be matched by who get's along best.

aerinpegadrak

We sort of did it by relationship, but not by "closeness" to us.  I'd told my sister not to get butthurt if I put her on the end since she was the only one in a long dress, so it shook down like this:

Bridesman (my brother) and groomswoman
Siblings: my two sisters and his brother
Skippers: two BMs and one GM
MOH and best man

We sorted this out approximately three hours before the ceremony.  Pictures in bio.

shaydenise

We did MOH & BM first obviously, then everyone else however they wanted to pair up.  It just happened that it went MOH/BM, siblings & ILs, friends. 

sister2groom

I like random best (or order of birthdays, who's known you the longest, etc.). Age is a little akward (unless you're all 21-23 and don't really care about getting older), height would be OK as long as you don't have anyone at extremes who might feel sensitive about their height (and you couldn't even reall do that until the day of when you see who has which shoes), relationshion strength (other than honor attendants) is pretty bad.

beamer84

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_bp-arrangement?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:92a5f7d4-a90c-4752-8161-96686edc8ee5Post:c93306b0-74d8-459f-9aca-b06845eb82b5">Re: BP Arrangement</a>:
[QUOTE]I just told mine to line up. I think doing it by height is demeaning. Remember that the only people at the wedding to be paired up are the bride and groom.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

I did this. It worked out fine.

graysquirrel

It is best to pick something rather arbitrary, like birthday month, or by something like height. Doing it by how good a friend they are or how close they are to you can get really sticky fast. I had a friend who did it by how good a friend she thought they were, and she ended up saying things like, "I might have to move so-and-so further back if he does such-and-such." It was quite sickening. 

LoveMuffins

Height... it's just easier than trying to find something else that's not going to hurt anyone's feelings, and there's a "tradition" behind it which also helps with the feelings thing.

SirJuliusVonHaast

My feelings were an eensy teensy bit hurt in one wedding when we lined up in order of how long we knew the couple. I'm a lot closer to the bride than two of the other BMs who were before me. I'm totally not the kind of person who normally cares about how I rank compared to anyone else, so I think it shows that either "line up however" or something completely arbitrary like birth month is best. 

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We matched them by personality and height the best we could.

amandanoelle12

We'll be pairing up by relationship, then pairing up the rest with who ever is left.

Most of our best friends are couples, so husband and wife will walk together and boyfriends and girlfriends will walk together.  Then whoever is left will be paired up with each other.