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potential Momzilla

I love my mother.  She is the best shoulder to cry on, reliable, and helpful (most of the time).  But I'm a little nervous about the wedding.  Whenever she has thrown a party in the past and I have been present, she tends to get bossy about how she wants things done (ie. she tells me, "you should sit here", grabbs me by my elbow and pulls me to where she wants me to be).  Even if the party is in my honor.  She did this at the engagement party, bridal shower, and every birthday party I can remember.  And I know she means well, but she has a hard time just sitting back and letting things happen.  I've tried to approach her before about this but she doesn't get it.  Really, I think it's more of a coping mechanism for stress.  But I don't want to be belittled like this at my wedding.  I've considered hiring a day-of coordinator to help keep her focused on other things, but I'm worried it would just lead to a mess.  Does anyone have any suggestions?

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    KnibletKniblet member
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    edited December 2011
    I love having a planner.  She has kept my mom from snapping a few times.  A Day of Coordinator would be a lot cheaper and worth it, IMO.
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    edited December 2011
    I would always recommend a day-of coordinator.  If your mom gets in a tizzy about it, just tell her you don't want her to have to work at the wedding.
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    edited December 2011
    I'm a 50+ year old MOB, who's mother is just like yours. She's not so bossy with other people, but she still tries to micro-manage me.  My daughter and I plan on letting my mom and dad host their own table at the wedding. She can choose her table and guests first. Then I'll pick mine; ) Distance is key.  And open bar doesn't hurt.

                       
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    edited December 2011
    Both previous responders have excellent ideas!  Try one!
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    edited December 2011
    It is difficult to distinguish help and advice. There is a fine line for both the Bride and the MOB  Some brides stress and keep it inside (not good idea) and some brides stress and share with someone else (better idea) If you and your mom have been close before 'the day', remember that too. Maybe MOB is worried SHE will look bad if you don't do things as she sees them. The day after the wedding things will get better and she will need her mother especially after all the bridal affair is over.  Talk--not argue--talk about how you feel now. So you don't have the stress of her being a potential Momzilla
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