Cliff notes: Mom says she is excited about my wedding, but is making comments and doing things that reflect otherwise. Loves finace, but doesn't like the wedding planning process.
Full Story: I have not ask my parents for any money since I started planning the wedding almost a year ago. They are not a fan of "big" weddings and have been verbal about this. Well, that is okay. I am 32 years old and my fiance is 34 and I knew that I would have to take on paying for this wedding on my own. Well, I have tried to incorporate my mom and dad in the planning process, but I normally get some sort of comment, slur, and/or a roll of the eyes. They love my fiance dearly, but I can't understand for the life of me why they can't just be happy for me and what I want to do. I am very capable of paying for everything and they know this, so I don't think that is the problem. I have been seeing real issues with my mom. I want to take her to see the venue and she makes every excuse not to come and here we are 2 months from the wedding, and she still diplays no intentions of wanting to see the venue.
My bachelorette party was this last weekend. I invited her, one of her friends (so that she wouldn't be uncomfortable), my friends, his mom, and his sister. You could tell she didn't want to be there and left early on Sunday morning. She then called me the next day and told me that she told her friend on the way down that she wasn't going to like any of the people there. Who really says this???
I am so hurt righ now, but I haven't said anything because I don't want to start anything this soon before the wedding. Any thoughts on how I should address this situation, if any?? I thought mothers wanted to be a part of this special day for their daughters??? Thanks for your comments/advice.