Am I asking too much?

kerri.lmcqueen

My wedding is just a few weeks away now. For the wedding day, my mom, sister (who is my MOH), and I are getting our make up done professionally. I'm not requiring everyone do this since I am not paying for it, but my mom and sister still want to get their make up done. So I had my make up trial done a few weeks ago. My mom and sister had to cancel their trial for some reason and have yet to reschedule. I've asked them to reschedule it so I can plan the timeline of the wedding day and know how long each of them will take, but they are now saying they don't think they need to do a trial. The person doing the make up did the make up for my sister's wedding 2 years ago, so they both "trust" her and think she'll do a fine job on them. I'm aggravated because I feel like they think my wedding is less important than my sister's wedding since we all did make up trials for her wedding and they can't be bothered to do make up trials for mine. Am I overreacting?

Habs2Hart

Only the bride usually gets a trial. 

kerri.lmcqueen

Well we did trials for my sister's wedding because she asked us to. And the trial doesn't cost money either. And when my sister got her trial done for her wedding, she kept changing this and that and I'm concerned she'll do that the day of my wedding, eating up too much time.

jerseydevil

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[QUOTE]In Response to Am I asking too much? : Yes, you are overreacting. They have used this make-up person before, so they know about her work. There is no reason for them to go to a trial. In fact, I've only ever heard of the bride getting a trial. <strong>They are going to get their make-up done the day of. That's all you need to know for your schedule.</strong>
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]


This.

kerri.lmcqueen

Thanks. I guess I'm just concerned that they are going to take too long the day of. Knowing my sister, this is a possibility. I can see her having the make up artist change her make up a million times. But I guess if they take too long, I shouldn't worry about it. They'll be the ones to miss out on me putting on my gown and stuff. I really appreciate the honest advice!

Habs2Hart

Trust your MUA and hair dresser to schedule the timing.  Most know how long it takes and they don't want the screw the bride over.

graysquirrel

If you're worried about your timeline, they could always ask their MUA how long it usually takes. They probably already know the answer because they've used her before. I'd pad your timeline a little just in case, but other than that, I'd trust them on it. 

aerinpegadrak

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[QUOTE]If you're worried about your timeline, they could always ask their MUA how long it usually takes. They probably already know the answer because they've used her before. <strong>I'd pad your timeline a little just in case</strong>, but other than that, I'd trust them on it. 
Posted by graysquirrel[/QUOTE]
Honestly, this is a good idea anyway.  You never know what might crop up that would put you behind, so clearing the 30-60 minutes before the ceremony to use as padding will set your mind at ease.  I built in this hour of padding in case getting ready/taking pictures ran long; we got back to the hotel exactly on time, so we took some extra pictures of just DH and I, then went back up to the room so we could freshen up and I could frantically reassemble the ceremony playlist because it hadn't transferred properly.

SSaltzman87

Since they've used this person before, I guess they don't feel it's absolutely necessary to do a trial. I wouldn't get worked up about it, they're adults and if they're behind well-that's their own fault. Only you can control your own actions, not theirs.

perkins81

I think you're over-reacting. Just relax. I was a BM in my sister's wedding and never had a hair or makeup trial. The lady who did all of us did a fabulous job. As long as you have someone who has a lot of experience doing weddings, then she'll be able to "whip" something together last minute and make them look beautiful (but of course, not as beautiful as the bride!)

Kate61487

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[QUOTE]In Response to Am I asking too much? : Yes, you are overreacting. They have used this make-up person before, so they know about her work. There is no reason for them to go to a trial. In fact, I've only ever heard of the bride getting a trial. They are going to get their make-up done the day of. That's all you need to know for your schedule.
Posted by cfaszews25[/QUOTE]

This