Rehersal dinner, FMIL issue

mehgan11

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aerinpegadrak

If she's not paying and she's not hosting, stop talking to her about the RD.  If she brings it up, say, "It's under control" and change the subject. 

sarah42nd

I agree with aerin.  Shes not paying .

Summer2011Bride

Don't bring up the RD around her, and if she does, I agree with aerin--just say "it's under control" or "it's already taken care of." If she forces ideas upon you, just say "thanks for your ideas, but it's already been taken care of." THen change the subject. If she is not paying, she can not FORCE you to do anything a certain way.

[Deleted User]

Whoever pays has the say. Stop talking about it around her. And if she brings it up, change the subject or tell her you have everything taken care of.

cmcurris

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_rehersal-dinner-fmil-issue?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:a4243925-4e1a-4016-bc79-7ba597d24e10Post:a5e3a4bb-40b6-4e09-92fc-db201d344825">Re: Rehersal dinner, FMIL issue</a>:
[QUOTE]If she's not paying and she's not hosting, stop talking to her about the RD.  If she brings it up, say, "It's under control" and change the subject. 
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]

This. If she's not paying, it's none of her concern

SirJuliusVonHaast

Why did you delete? This information could have helped other people in similar situations if they read your post. 

mehgan11

I deleted FI asked i not have somthing up about his mother online, and I respect that so I took it off
Sorry everyone