Sticky & sensitive situation w/ MOB & Grandmother

ashpinck

Due to a long dramatic family history, I was raised by my maternal grandparents from a very young age. As you can imagine, the grandparents & my mother don't have a very good relationship. I see my grandmother as more of a "mother" figure than my own mom..yet both are still very important to me in their own way and I want both to be honored at the wedding. Whats the best way to make everyone feel special without making one feel like they are "more important" to me than the other?? PLEASE HELP!!

melb2013

I'm actually unsure what the issue is.  What things do mothers and grandmothers do differently at weddings?  Don't assign them seats at the wedding- they can all sit in the front row together.  Are you worried about the order of processional?  I could imagine that that could be handled in many different ways so that no one is notably more important than the other.

MairePoppy

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_sticky-sensitive-situation-w-mob-grandmother?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:a83d5ba3-f209-4128-8c5d-3e9a119525e1Post:359956af-df5b-4f37-a08d-bddfb0b7bd04">Re: Sticky & sensitive situation w/ MOB & Grandmother</a>:
[QUOTE]Grandmother is seated first in honor of her age. Then mom.  Then the wedding party enters.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

^^This^^
Sticking with the traditional order and seating should prevent hurt feelings or controversy. That is the very purpose of etiquette. The order of the wedding procession has nothing to do with the importance of the people in your life.

ashpinck

MairePoppy & ReTread Bride, the age thing is the perfect solution. I actually have a great grandmother so the age card should play out nicely. Thank  you