I'm the MOH hosting the bridal shower with the help of the other bridesmaids, thank goodness. The invite list is pushing 85 and growing...and that is just invitations to send (not including mother/daughter combos). My question is what do I do about the out of town invitations I need to send out? Do I include some sort of note letting them know they are special to the bride but that she doesn't expect them to come? (her words, not mine.) Please help....