What to wear?

qwerygirl2010

My sister is getting married in a few weeks, and I need some help figuring out what to wear. She hasn't asked me to be in the bridal party. Hurt feelings aside, I don't know what to wear. 

The bridal party is wearing a deep purple color, and my mother is wearing light purple. I don't particularly like black on me (makes me look washed out), and I'm assuming I might be in some photos but not others. So I'm trying to find something that doesn't scream "one of these things is not like the other, one of these things just doesn't belong ..."

Do I wear whatever I find that looks good on me (avoiding dark purple, naturally) and not worry about whether or not it blends in? Or should I try to find something that doesn't make me stand out like a sore thumb (like a red dress I tried on today ... looked great, but also might be too attention grabbing.) 

Ugh. This is so much more work than it should be. 

lalap69

I'm so sorry that your sister's BP selection hurt your feelings.

That said, since you're not in the BP, this means that you get to wear whatever you want!  So pick whatever makes you feel fabulous, and don't worry about "blending in" with the wedding colours or anything like that.  The only person who gets to pick what you wear now is you

trix1223

ditto lalap.  Don't worry about trying to "coordinate" with the WP at all.  You're not in it~you don't have to "coordinate".  As for photos:  I assume you'll be in family photos, but probably few if any with the WP.

So stay away from purple and all white , but beyond that, wear a dress that you love and will be comfortable in.

aerinpegadrak

Exactly, you don't have to coordinate.  If you're really worried about it, you could stick to cool colors, like blues and greens.  But honestly, if you wanted to wear bright pink, that's entirely your prerogative.  You're under no obligation to squeeze yourself into the color scheme.

marissa_claire

Have you tried a deep blue?  That wouldn't match the others but would definitely look great and appropriate.

lisaandcorey

Wear whatever looks stunning on you and makes you feel fabulous!  The only way you can stand out like a sore thumb is if you wear something depressing and understated. 

SSaltzman87

Wear whatever the heck you want. You're not in a position where you need to be coordinated.

Muffin'sMom

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[QUOTE]I'm so sorry that your sister's BP selection hurt your feelings. That said, since you're not in the BP, this means that you get to wear whatever you want!  So pick whatever makes you feel fabulous, and don't worry about "blending in" with the wedding colours or anything like that.  The only person who gets to pick what you wear now is you :)
Posted by lalap69[/QUOTE]

this!  you are "just" a guest and so can where whatever makes you feel gorgeous!

erollis

Wear whatever you want! I personally love almost all shades of blue. Maybe a blue dress. It doesn't not even have to be dark blue. Or go for red or even that rainbow jump suit you saw the other day. Just wear something that makes you feel fabulous!

ceyring

I vote anything that doesn't actively clash with the purple.

JerseyML

Wear whatever will make you look FABULOUS!  And don't forget to rock a hot pair of shoes too.