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When do I need to make sure the moms pick out/order their dresses?
Our wedding is in 6 months?

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    edited December 2011
    The sooner, the better. My wedding is in 6 months and my mom is still refusing to look. I think they take awhile to come in. Just try to get them looking!
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    tldhtldh member
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    edited December 2011
    Where are they getting them?  If it's a salon, call and ask for drop dead dates to order.  For one brother's wedding, my mom bought her dress off the rack at Macy's.
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_mother-of-bride-groom-dresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:b3efc99a-ae7b-4b14-b793-07822d17ba00Post:c4642d28-a91a-4a55-a94a-7c40a22f082c">Mother of Bride and Groom Dresses</a>:
    [QUOTE]When do I need to make sure the moms pick out/order their dresses? Our wedding is in 6 months?
    Posted by spanzer[/QUOTE]
    I would assume it depends on what you're going for. Are they getting custom dresses? Or are they just getting off the rack dresses? What do they want?
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    edited December 2011
    They know when your wedding is, they will know when they need to order them or buy them.

    Both of our Mom's purchased something off of the rack at Macy's and VonMaur, so it wasn't a big deal for allowing time for them to come in. I highly suggest they explore some of the dept stores first before ordering from a bridal salon. We looked there, but they were just too overpriced.
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    trix1223trix1223 member
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    edited December 2011
    Your mom and FMIL are grown women who have been dressing themselves for years.  They have been going to stores and purchasing attire.  You don't NEED to make sure that they purchase anything on your timeline.  Don't  micromanage the moms~treat them like the adults they are.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_mother-of-bride-groom-dresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:b3efc99a-ae7b-4b14-b793-07822d17ba00Post:7ef08de6-4913-47b4-8961-9d139f86cbb6">Re: Mother of Bride and Groom Dresses</a>:
    [QUOTE]Your mom and FMIL are grown women who have been dressing themselves for years.  They have been going to stores and purchasing attire.  You don't NEED to make sure that they purchase anything on your timeline.  Don't  micromanage the moms~treat them like the adults they are.
    Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

    <div>Ditto. My Mom would be insulted by me checking up to see if she had purchased or ordered her wedding attire.  If she's getting something that will take time to come in... don't you think she would have thought to check on that before ordering it???? </div>
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    aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_mother-of-bride-groom-dresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:b3efc99a-ae7b-4b14-b793-07822d17ba00Post:7ef08de6-4913-47b4-8961-9d139f86cbb6">Re: Mother of Bride and Groom Dresses</a>:
    [QUOTE]Your mom and FMIL are grown women who have been dressing themselves for years.  They have been going to stores and purchasing attire.  <strong>You don't NEED to make sure that they purchase anything on your timeline.</strong>  Don't  micromanage the moms~treat them like the adults they are.
    Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]
    Took the words right out of my mouth.

    You can turn them away if they show up at the church naked.  Prior to that, treat them like adults.
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_mother-of-bride-groom-dresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:b3efc99a-ae7b-4b14-b793-07822d17ba00Post:7ef08de6-4913-47b4-8961-9d139f86cbb6">Re: Mother of Bride and Groom Dresses</a>:
    [QUOTE]Your mom and FMIL are grown women who have been dressing themselves for years.  They have been going to stores and purchasing attire.  You don't NEED to make sure that they purchase anything on your timeline.  Don't  micromanage the moms~treat them like the adults they are.
    Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

    <div>This exactly. Trix is wise.</div>
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    lalap69lalap69 member
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    edited December 2011
    [QUOTE]Mother of Bride and Groom Dresses[/QUOTE]
    Did anyone else read this as the bride and groom are siblings?
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    djoann958djoann958 member
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    edited December 2011
    I f they are purchasing off the rack in a department, you have lots of time. I ordered my MOB dress from a bridal salon 5 months prior to my daughter's wedding. I was told it would take 3 months for it to arrive and up to 2 months for alterations.
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    tldhtldh member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_mother-of-bride-groom-dresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:b3efc99a-ae7b-4b14-b793-07822d17ba00Post:70911843-95e8-4121-8518-66968ce01415">Re: Mother of Bride and Groom Dresses</a>:
    [QUOTE]I f they are purchasing off the rack in a department, you have lots of time. I ordered my MOB dress from a bridal salon 5 months prior to my daughter's wedding. I was told it would take 3 months for it to arrive and <strong>up to 2 months for alterations</strong>.
    Posted by djoann958[/QUOTE]

    Seriously???  I would have found a real seamstress then and told the store to forget it.  My seamstress had my wedding dress altered for me overnight.
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    edited December 2011
    Trix - my thoughts exactly.

                       
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    Beachy730Beachy730 member
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    edited December 2011
    I love how people freak out at 6 months when things aren't ordered (Not you specifically OP, just many brides in general).  My whole wedding was planned in 5 months, including BM dresses and my own wedding gown being ordered.  My mom's dress was the least of my worries because she is a grown woman and knows what she needs to do.

    She ended up buying hers about 3 and a half months before.  She wanted to lost some weigght before trying them on.  We planned a day together because she wanted me to go with her, and the first store we went to was David's Bridal.  She ended up finding one she loved and bought it off the rack. 
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    TheCranberryTheCranberry member
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    edited December 2011
    If you think they want to order dresses, just let them know it will take some lead time and leave it up to them to decide.  If they want off the rack, then they can go whenever.
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    DanielleZZDanielleZZ member
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    edited December 2011

    If they don't plan on buying one off the rack I would suggest to start looking now.  My wedding is March 5th.  My mom got hers a few months ago.  We went looking for my FI's mom yesterday and the dress she liked won't come in by the wedding so we have to keep looking, we really wish we would have gone sooner.

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    edited December 2011
    Off the rack...alterations took a week.  That being said, there is a lot of pretty sparkly party stuff out now for holiday events.  It doesn't hurt to look!
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    bablingbrookebablingbrooke member
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    Both our moms got their outfits off the rack at department stores.  It was cheaper, easier, and let them be the independent adults that they are.
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    edited December 2011

    We (MOB, MOG & Bride's Grandmother) all bought our outfits off the rack. We found the dresses offered by the bridal shops to be too expensive and quite frankly, not well made.  The MOG bought her dress 13 months prior to the wedding and had it accessorized and altered by 10 months out. The Bride's grandmother and I bought our outfits at the 2 month mark.  We found that everyone else was much more concerned than we about the fact that we waited to make our purchases.  In fact, the more that everyone (and I do mean everyone!) pushed the more irritated I got and the more reluctant I got to go shopping.  We knew when the wedding date was and never had any intention of going down the aisle naked! Laughing

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    aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_mother-of-bride-groom-dresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:b3efc99a-ae7b-4b14-b793-07822d17ba00Post:a3f43cc2-c341-4cea-b3d2-030491c3f923">Re: Mother of Bride and Groom Dresses</a>:
    [QUOTE]I was told it would take 3 months for it to arrive and up to 2 months for alterations. Wow.  It took 3 weeks to alter my wedding dress, which included removing and reapplying detail work to take in the sides, AND my underslip.  And that was at the bridal store, during their busiest time. 
    Posted by StageManager14[/QUOTE]
    Yeah, I've heard horror stories about the alterations department at David's, but I think I had my first fitting something like a month out.  I suppose if you're having extensive alterations done it would take longer, but if you're looking at the usual "adjust the waist and hem" that most people need, that can certainly be done in a matter of days.
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    edited December 2011
    Do you buy your wedding dress? And what's your wedding theme? If you are confirm these, you should buy the  Mother of Bride and Groom Dresses. If you want to buy the dresses online,  just let them know it will take some time. I am also planning to buy the wedding dress. Just look though the http://bit.ly/fyJk6H But  If they want off the rack, then they can go whenever. I agree with the others. congrat!!!
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    trix1223trix1223 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_mother-of-bride-groom-dresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:b3efc99a-ae7b-4b14-b793-07822d17ba00Post:c1c61181-1baa-4a7f-a3c8-bfd28dfae772">Re: Mother of Bride and Groom Dresses</a>:
    [QUOTE]Do you buy your wedding dress? And what's your wedding theme? If you are confirm these, you should buy the  Mother of Bride and Groom Dresses. If you want to buy the dresses online,  just let them know it will take some time. I am also planning to buy the wedding dress. Just look though the <a href="http://bit.ly/fyJk6H" rel="nofollow">http://bit.ly/fyJk6H</a> But  If they want off the rack, then they can go whenever. I agree with the others. congrat!!!
    Posted by rose000[/QUOTE]

    What does this mean?
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
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    tldhtldh member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_mother-of-bride-groom-dresses?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:b3efc99a-ae7b-4b14-b793-07822d17ba00Post:c1c61181-1baa-4a7f-a3c8-bfd28dfae772">Re: Mother of Bride and Groom Dresses</a>:
    [QUOTE]Do you buy your wedding dress? And what's your wedding theme? If you are confirm these, you should buy the  Mother of Bride and Groom Dresses. If you want to buy the dresses online,  just let them know it will take some time. I am also planning to buy the wedding dress. Just look though the <a href="http://bit.ly/fyJk6H" rel="nofollow">http://bit.ly/fyJk6H</a> But  If they want off the rack, then they can go whenever. I agree with the others. congrat!!!
    Posted by rose000[/QUOTE]

    What the.....?
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    aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    edited December 2011
    I think I worded my post poorly; I had my alterations done at DB as well.  So I was agreeing with you, but I guess it was a communication fail on my part...
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