I thought that we had a lot of the details of the wedding figured out; for example, we weren't going to have a wedding party--just a flower girl and ring bearer.
My fiance recently told me that he doesn't want it to be that way--that having no bridal party is stupid--and that he wants his brothers and some close friends to be his groomsmen because this day is important to him and he wants these people up there with him. I told him I understood and that was fine, but that I wasn't going to have bridesmaids. Then he said that was stupid, too--that I had to have bridesmaids.
The problem is that even if I'd like to have bridesmaids, I don't have anyone to ask. I don't have any sisters, and, at this point in my life, I don't have any friends. I have very few cousins, none of which are planning on attending my wedding. My fiance told me to include his sister (although he wasn't planning on including my one-and-only brother as one of his groomsmen); I am in no way close to his sister and she's really weird, but I would consider adding her out of principle if she wasn't going to be the only one. He also named two former coworkers of mine (from a job I quit a few months ago), but I am not comfortable asking them and I certainly don't think they would be comfortable being asked.
I'm not trying to be difficult. I honestly wish I had people to ask. I always dreamed of a wedding surrounded by those closest to me--the friends that I could call at 2 am when I was on the verge of a breakdown or just really needed to talk. Unfortunately, I don't have these people in my life right now, and I'm loathe to ask people just to have warm bodies.
I can tell that this is really important to my fiance, but I just don't know how to compromise on this one. He's right when he says that it will look stupid to have four or five groomsmen up there and no bridesmaids, plus I'm not exactly thrilled to emphasize my lack of friends.
I also know that suddenly adding a wedding party will screw with my budget, but I'm willing to try and figure that out if I can overcome the problem of finding people in the first place.
And now I don't even recall how we came to the decision of no wedding party. Did I make some executive decision and he just went along with it until now? I don't remember...
Please, if you have any advice, I'm all ears.