MOH dress situation

dawnmei

Okay, some minor griping coming up.  My FI and I recently moved our wedding date from December to April and I asked a good friend to be my MOH in the wedding. She's my only attendant and as it's a small wedding,  I told her I really didn't care a whole lot what she wore...didn't care if it was long or short, no particular color, just something spring-y.  I told her I wanted to see what she chose and go from there with planning for flowers, colors, etc, so I did need to know fairly soon.  We talked about this...probably the first of March.  She told me she'd go shopping that weekend, and have a dress picked by March 12 at the latest.  I called her this past Thursday and she had gone out of town last weekend and didn't get a chance to look, but was going to this weekend, she'd send me pics of stuff she liked, etc.  And I haven't heard from her at all, not even a text that she was having trouble finding anything.  But she did post on Facebook about her busy weekend and everything she accomplished, and how she was now sitting in her recliner relaxing.  I'm just really not doing well with being at a standstill on so many things until she chooses her dress. 

aerinpegadrak

So either figure out what color she wants to wear and let her go from there, or plan everything else with a neutral color scheme that won't be affected by what she chooses to wear.  I think it's kind of silly to base so much of your plans around one dress.  It's not her responsibility to choose colors for your wedding, and not her fault you're not proceeding on anything else.

ChrislovesBarry

set a date for the 2 of you to go shopping together.

dawnmei

Thanks for the advice.  Since she and I live about 3 hours away, I thought allowing her to go shopping and chose whatever she wanted would give her the most freedom in dress selection and make it easier.  Apparently I was wrong. 

aerinpegadrak

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[QUOTE]Thanks for the advice.  Since she and I live about 3 hours away, I thought allowing her to go shopping and chose whatever she wanted would give her the most freedom in dress selection and make it easier.  Apparently I was wrong. 
Posted by dawnmei[/QUOTE]
I think the problem is that in giving her the most freedom, you're also putting too much pressure and responsibility on her by trying to make her decide on so many other things for the wedding, and that's really not fair.  You can work around whatever she chooses without her having to make the decision omgrightnow.