Hello everyone,
Happy Friday!
So I need some advice/support. My wedding is coming up in about two months and I'm essentially the executive director of this weekend. I have a great fiance who helps a lot and is very supportive. However, I feel stretched so thin in so many directions by family members. Does anyone deal with other people's expectations? Our wedding is very formal and medium size so it has a variety of specific details and it is over three days. For the record, I wanted ten people, one day, done. However, when people give you money, you're obviously at the mercy of some of their decisions. My MIL and FIL to be are great for the most part but divorced and there is family drama to try to sift through. My parents are not paying for the wedding, my in laws are because my parents are not in the position to do so. Yet, they are very pushy about being "honored" in certain ways and that it's a homage to them and all they have done for me. My mother is giving me a shower in which she said to me, "the shower is about me and you get the gifts." The reality is, I'm a low keyed person and don't want any of this. I also have grandparents who are extremely high maintenance and guilt trip me if I don't see them constantly. We live out of state and with all this wedding planning, I can't keep up with my own parents, divorced in laws, guilt tripping grandparents, etc. Does anyone else go through this? I try to set limits and boundaries but the guilt is getting to me. It's about the marriage in my opinion but I feel as though I am getting torn apart.
Would love some advice.