FMIL's dress

Karinabobina

My FMIL is insisting on wearing a dress that matches the BM's dresses. She has been pretty absent in my FI's life and now all of a sudden wants to be a part of it. Is it wrong for me to not want her to match? Or is it tradition that the mother's match?

MairePoppy

The mothers get to choose a dress that suits their own style and formality of the wedding. They don't have to coordinate with each other , the decor or the wedding party. And they don't have to get the bride's approval.

Don't worry, no one is going to mistake your 50 (+) year old FMIL for a bridesmaid. I'm sure no one will even notice that she is wearing the same color. So don't stress about it.

Muffin'sMom

In 1300 pictures, there was not a single one of the MOG with the wedding party.  It's fine.

Is someone saying I can't rock a bridesmaids dress and look just as hot as a 25 year old???  Seriously???

Pouting now.....

MairePoppy

Dear Muffin's Mom, I'm sure YOU would look hot in  a magenta, strapless pouf dress.

But I would not want to have photographs of myself, similarly clad. Things just aren't were they used to be. Just saying.

trix1223

Drop it.  Mom's dresses are not your call.  And yes, in my DD's hundreds of photos, the only photo of her MIL and WP is a family photo, because DD's new SIL was a BM.

In son and DIL's wedding photos, the only photo of me and any of the WP was the family photo where my two DD's were in the WP.

This is so not worth a fight.  And if people snark about it, they'll be snarking about her, not you anyway.

trix1223

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[QUOTE]My FMIL is insisting on wearing a dress that matches the BM's dresses. She has been pretty absent in my FI's life and now all of a sudden wants to be a part of it. Is it wrong for me to not want her to match? Or is it tradition that the mother's match?
Posted by Karinabobina[/QUOTE]

Muffin'sMom

Weeellllll........maybe magenta strapless pouf would be a bad idea.  Yup...really bad idea!

SSaltzman87

NO ONE will mistake your FMIL for a BM-nor will they notice that her dress is the same color as theirs. This isn't worth your time or energy.

[Deleted User]

Ditto pp's. My Bm's dresses were purple and BOTH my Mom and MIL wore a shade of purple. I was upset at first, but let it go. Everything turned out just fine.

lblumetti

I don't think it matters if she matches or not.  She'll just blend with the crowd

aerinpegadrak

I don't have a single picture of the mothers with anyone other than their own family.  It doesn't matter if she shows up in the exact same dress as the bridesmaids, no one will be confused.

jerseydevil

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_fmils-dress?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:c221ff6b-3f35-464c-a3da-fec81eb8c7bdPost:cb5d7714-2b9c-4991-85cb-1655b2fa3c5a">Re: FMIL's dress</a>:
[QUOTE]The mothers get to choose a dress that suits their own style and formality of the wedding. <strong>They don't have to coordinate with each other , the decor or the wedding party. And they don't have to get the bride's approval.</strong> Don't worry, no one is going to mistake your 50 (+) year old FMIL for a bridesmaid. I'm sure no one will even notice that she is wearing the same color. So don't stress about it.
Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]

I really wish my future SMIL would agree with that! She's decided to be offended that I'm not dictating what she wears. As long as they match the formality of the wedding, the mothers should be able to pick out whatever makes them feel beautiful!