Need some input..

annielouise

Need some quick advice, ladies.  My brother is getting married this weekend to a wonderful woman.  I am a bridesmaid in the wedding, which is in northern Idaho.  Most of my family isn’t getting in to town until Friday afternoon, we will be there tomorrow night.  Brother called the other night and asked if I would like to stay with the girls in a hotel on Friday night and my FI stay with the guys (FI is not in the wedding party).  I talked to FI and he said it’s cool with him, and I think he’s actually looking forward to the “guy time”.  We have the rehearsal Friday and then I will be going with the girls Friday night.  Saturday morning the girls are getting mani’s, pedi’s, makeup and hair done, which will be an all morning/afternoon thing.  We leave Sunday at noon so I don’t think I’m going to get to see my family very much.  I have quite a few cousins/aunts/uncles that I haven’t seen for 2 yrs that are going to be there, but won’t be able to attend my wedding in September.  I know I need to be there for the bride, but I also want to be able to spend as much time as I can with my other family.  As the bride, would you be offended if I elected to stay with my family rather than the other bridesmaids?  I’ve been debating what to do and I just can’t come to a conclusion.

cherrrylll

I wouldn't be offended at all. My cousin's girlfriend stayed with me the night before because my sisters both have children they needed to be at home with. I just wanted to get some good sleep that night, so even if my sisters had stayed with me, we wouldn't have really done anything but turn in early.

Mariah09202008

I could go either way on this.  I just think you should ask the bride how she feels about it and go from there.  I don't think I'd be offended because spending time with familly is important to me as well.  Would you not be able to spend time with your family during the wedding reception?  What about Sunday morning?

bsn1752

Well, I could see how the bride would be offended, because she invited you to be part of the bridal party.  But I could also see how you would obviously want to see family that you haven't seen in a long time.  I agree with Mariah that you should ask the bride what she thinks.  She will probably tell you to go with your family, but make sure that her feelings aren't really hurt anyway!

Jeff and Deepthi

I agree, just explain this to your Bride and see how she feels. My sister only had me and my little sister with her. She didnt' care as long as everyone was ready to go the next day.

NMac2010

I can see both sides too.

But I would just talk to the bride about it. I'm sure she will understand. I wouldn't mind if FSIL didn't want to stay the night with me, for whatever reason.

annielouise

Thanks for the help girls.  I think I decided to just stay with the girls.  I know as a bride, I wouldn't be offended, but I am also so excited about FINALLY getting a sister and I think I will enjoy the time I get to bond with her.  It will be a good night!