My MOH is going out of town!

brittanyjterrell

Okay, I changed my date like 3 times because we were supposed to have it here, then destination now BACK here... finally picked a date and ordered and did and paid for everything and my MOH tells me she is going to be out of town. I can't see myself replacing her (plus I don't know too many married women I would want in my wedding). Thinking about skipping having one altogether. Suggestions>?

HappinessByTheKilowatt

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[QUOTE]Okay, I changed my date like 3 times because we were supposed to have it here, then destination now BACK here... finally picked a date and ordered and did and paid for everything and my MOH tells me she is going to be out of town. I can't see myself replacing her <strong>(plus I don't know too many married women I would want in my wedding)</strong>. Thinking about skipping having one altogether. Suggestions>?
Posted by brittanyjterrell[/QUOTE]

I'm confused by the bolded part. Why does she have to be married?

Don't replace her.  Not having one is just fine.

twilight.rose

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[QUOTE]Why does she have to be married?
Posted by HappinessByTheKilowatt[/QUOTE]

I think perhaps she's referring to her Matron of Honor, and thinks that in order to "replace" her and put another lady in the position, she would have to find someone else who is married.

Ditto PPs as far as not having one.

aerinpegadrak

MOH wasn't sure if she was going to be able to make my wedding.  I think she wouldn't have minded being replaced, but when I told her that she was still my MOH regardless of where she was at the time of the ceremony, she cried.  Stop thinking like The Bride for two seconds and be a friend.

heinz11msw

***plus I don't know too many married women I would want in my wedding***

HUH?? What does being married have to do with standing up in a wedding? A bridal party is not a job that one should apply for... they are your closest friends/sisters/cousins, etc that you want next to you. All they ahve to do is walk down an aisle and smile. This statement totally threw me thru a loop....

I am so sick of hearing about brides that are treating their wedding like it's a play, dress rehearsal, drama, etc.

brittanyjterrell

I was told my Matron of Honor had to be married...

vicki0508

You can have a maid of honor, who is not married.  Or a matron of honor, who is married.  They are the exact same thing, the only difference is the marital status of the girl.

But don't replace your MOH.

deb84

PP is correct. Matron=married  Maid=unmarried  You can have one, the other or *gasp* both.  DO NOT replace her.  Just have bridesmaids.  If she is really as close of a friend as she should be to be your MOH I would still list her in the program as your MOH.  Also, why would you not run your date by your VIPs to make sure it was going to work for them?  (If something just suddenly came up that is different)

tiggy330

My MOH gave me a scare a while back when she said that she *might* be out of town on my date.  I was upset but decided that replacing or demoting her would be really mean- she is the one I wanted to be MOH.  She'll now be in town, but I told her that I'd need to know for sure before printing the programs.  If she wasn't going to be in town, I would have listed her as my MOH, but as unable to attend or something like that.  Don't demote/replace.