A tribute to my soon to be MIL who passed away

JJM129

My soon to be MIL passed away about a week ago. She really went through alot with being sick. That being said I was wondering if anyone had any ideas on a way we could do something in rememberance of her during our reception other than having the usual table with the rememberance candle on it??? THANK YOU!

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Definitely mention her in your programs if you are having them. Other ideas include: wearing something that belonged to her, carry a picture of her in your purse, wrap a locket with a photo in it around your bouquet, dedicate a song to her at the reception/play her favorite song or the song that your FI and her would have danced to.

Your FI could also carry a picture of her in his pocket.

JJM129

thanks those are all really good ideas that I would of never thought of. I'm usually pretty creative but I guess with my emotions running high still its hard. Thanks again!

trix1223

I'm so sorry for your loss.  Please accept my condolences.

Your grief is still very, very raw as she just died last week.  Your wedding is in October.  I think it's far too soon to be making decisions like this now.  Give yourself time to grieve your loss.

Then in August, or September you can address this issue.  You'll be able to focus more on what you both, and your FI's family will be comfortable with on your wedding day.

And please, please ask your FI and his family what THEY are comfortable with.  My mom died just 3 weeks before our DD's wedding, and she and her grandma were very close. 

We all preferred to focus our attention on the joy of wedding day rather than on the loss of our mom/grandma.  DD wore a pair of her grandma's earrings, and our minister included her in the prayer before dinner.  And my mom would have been SO angry if we had, in any way, made wedding day about her instead of her beloved grandmother.

Again, I'm so sorry for your loss.  But take wedding out of your grief for the next several months.

seniah

I posted under another post that for my DH whose parents were deceased, I had made photo cufflinks.  The was a photo of each parent in each coff link.  I suggested to another poster - and now you - to do something similair - either the same photo in each cufflink or a photo of her on her wedding day in one and a more recent photo of her in the other.  My DH loved his cufflinks and wears them whenever he wears a tux.

Kimberly96

At my venue, there is a small mantle in the cake room.  I'm putting up wedding pictures of those who are no longer with us.  To keep it light-hearted, my FI and I are going to mix in some pictures of our childhood pets.  Don't know if that would work for you, but that's how I'm dealing with it.

Good luck and I am so sorry for your loss. 

graffeo

I am so sorry to hear about your FMIL. How does your FI feel about this? Only advice I can give is what i am going to be doing. My mom passed away 3 years ago as well as my FIs brother. For me I  dont want to see a pic of my mom bc it will send me into tears right away. I also dont want to be depressing on such a happy day. We plan to remember both my mom and his brother by having something special about them in our programs. This way other people can see it we remember them but its not something we need to think about all night and be upset about. With her passing being so recent  it might be hard for family to see something out and open. I would def ask your FI.

NOLAbridealmost

I'm putting up wedding pictures of those who are no longer with us.  To keep it light-hearted, my FI and I are going to mix in some pictures of our childhood pets

Oohh...cringe. 

I would not do this.  I understand that you mean well and don't want to bum everyone out, but this just seems to trivialize how much your relatives meant to you and your family by grouping them in with deceased pets.  

I see the intentions behind that...but I don't think it would work out well in reality. 

JJM129

Thank you all so much! My FI is actually the one who wanted to do something for her at our wedding and I was out of ideas. We found the garter belt she made with her mother for her wedding and the whole family is in agreement that I use that. While I wont be wearing it I will be using rather than ribbon to hold my flowers together... Kind of like she always held the family together :-) My sister in law to be actually came up with this idea and everyone loves it!

Thank you all again so much for all of your help!