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Any other groomswomen here?

My best friend (a guy) has asked me to be a groomswoman in his wedding. Anyone else in this situation?

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    tidetraveltidetravel member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_other-groomswomen-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:ca686a85-4915-4296-ae7d-d88c4dd19f8cPost:0f774718-2de6-4cdb-8601-ada14ae12b3f">Any other groomswomen here?</a>:
    [QUOTE]My best friend (a guy) has asked me to be a groomswoman in his wedding. Anyone else in this situation?
    Posted by soon2bedrspaar[/QUOTE]

    Mixed gender wedding parties are quite common these days.  We had both a bridesman and a groomswoman.  I wouldn't really call it a "situation."  What, exactly, is your question.
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    aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    Yeah, I wouldn't really think of it as a "situation."  We had both a groomswoman and a bridesman, and they did the same things all of our other attendants did, they just stood on different sides for the ceremony and for pictures.
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    LoveMuffinsLoveMuffins member
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    edited December 2011
    I won't lie... I'm really hoping that one day someone will ask me to be a groomswoman... because I am so wearing the tux instead of the dress!
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    azdancer8azdancer8 member
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    edited December 2011

    We had a groomswoman, and it wasn't really any different than having another groomsman. She got dressed with me and my girls, and attended my bach party, but other than that, she was totally one of the "guys".

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    Dberkely11Dberkely11 member
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    edited December 2011
    I think her question was pretty clear: "Any other groomswomen here?" Perhaps she just wants to befriend someone in the same situation. And it is a situation, just as being a bridesMAID is a situation. A situation is the general state of things or the combination of circumstances at a given time.

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    I've never been one, but it sounds fun! :)
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    Kate61487Kate61487 member
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    edited December 2011
    haven't been one - but I'm having one!  FI's bf growing up was a girl.  She'll have the same dress/flowers etc as the other girls, she's invited to the showers and bachelorette party, she'll get ready with us the morning of, but she'll stand on the other side and be in some of the "boy" pictures
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    edited December 2011
    I'm going to be one next spring!!! I can't wait.
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    aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_other-groomswomen-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:ca686a85-4915-4296-ae7d-d88c4dd19f8cPost:11eef973-1049-4242-8fe1-5bb8315d7c85">Re: Any other groomswomen here?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think her question was pretty clear: "Any other groomswomen here?" Perhaps she just wants to befriend someone in the same situation. And it is a situation, just as being a bridesMAID is a situation. <strong>A situation is the general state of things or the combination of circumstances at a given time</strong>. To the original poster- I've never been one, but it sounds fun! :)
    Posted by Dberkely11[/QUOTE]
    Except on a message board like this, "situation" has a negative connotation.  If you come here and say "I'm in a situation" and you're not meaning "so please help me," you're just confusing the hell out of everyone.

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    edited December 2011
    I was one for my brother's wedding - I thought it was great to stand up on his side! 
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    edited December 2011
    I was my BFF's best woman.  What's your question caller?
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    edited December 2011
    OP - for safety's sake start a new account and don't put any personal information in your SN or in your ticker.  Using your real name is dangerous - this is an internet community - and using your fiancee's name is equally not as smart.  You've just let a bunch of people know your real identity and it would not be difficult to find out where you live and work.  Nor would it be difficult for a person to learn the details of your wedding and do things like cancel vendors.  It has happened in the past.
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    edited December 2011
    My FI is having a best woman... she's been his best friend for forever and he couldn't think of anyone else he'd want next to him. We asked if she wanted a dress or tux and she said it was up to FI since it's his wedding... FI knows she didn't even wear a dress to her wedding tho, so we picked the tux for her so she's comfortable.
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    edited December 2011
    I was a groomswomen in a wedding last year. I have been in several weddings as a bridesmaid, and am allway's wore out by the time of the ceremony. Hanging out with "the guy's" was so relaxing, and gave me different perspective on the whole wedding day. I would go into this with an open mind and enjoy it. It is in fact your friends special day and they want you to be involved. Enjoy the day, and the new couple.
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    edited December 2011
    I admit, I was somewhat dissappointed when my brother did not ask me to stand up for him. As well, he doesn't have a best man, just two groomsmen, because he doesn't think he has anyone close enough to ask for a best man. He and I are really close, and I actually intend to ask him to stand up for me -- be my "man of honour". I think having his sister stand up for him is just something that hasn't occurred to him and also their wedding is very traditional. So, I'm not in the wedding party at all. Anyway, my point is: that I'm really happy for anyone who goes this route. I think it's a wonderful way to acknowledge those relationships no matter what people's gender. Enjoy your role!
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    edited December 2011
    The BM at our wedding was a groomswoman
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    Dberkely11Dberkely11 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_other-groomswomen-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:ca686a85-4915-4296-ae7d-d88c4dd19f8cPost:1ee45584-cfe2-472a-83c9-f7ae1585414d">Re: Any other groomswomen here?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Any other groomswomen here? : Except on a message board like this, "situation" has a negative connotation.  If you come here and say "I'm in a situation" and you're not meaning "so please help me," you're just confusing the hell out of everyone. Don't lecture on the language if you don't know how to speak it.
    Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]

    If the OP meant "situation" in a negative way, I certainly didn't pick up on it. It seems like you're always looking for something to rip people apart about in their posts... maybe you're just insecure? And I know how to speak (English) properly, so I'm not sure what that is all about.
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_other-groomswomen-here?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:ca686a85-4915-4296-ae7d-d88c4dd19f8cPost:b1023028-8962-421d-b712-6d4182b5eba1">Re: Any other groomswomen here?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Any other groomswomen here? : If the OP meant "situation" in a negative way, I certainly didn't pick up on it. It seems like you're always looking for something to rip people apart about in their posts... maybe you're just insecure? And I know how to speak (English) properly, so I'm not sure what that is all about.
    Posted by Dberkely11[/QUOTE]

    Aerin has been here longer than you.  When she tells someone that the word "situation" on these boards usually references a negative situation, perhaps you and your seven posts may want to listen to her.
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