Me and my FI have been planning our wedding for over a year and a half now, and the wedding is still a good year away. We've had to push it back and push it back again due to finances. Neither of our families can afford to help. We're both students, and we do a pretty good job paying for ourselves given the state of the economy. So with having to pay for college and living on our own, paying for a wedding has been a struggle. Even with saving every penny we have it still seems so far away. We both have HUGE families. I'm talking 200+ on each side.
About a year ago my mom got a divorce. I was totally thrilled. My "step-father" at the time was a completely horrible man who did nothing but hold her back. He and my mother had two children together and could never afford to move out of my grandfather's house. Long story short the man was terrible. Just...TERRIBLE...attitude, financially, emotionally...just horrible!!!!!
So she's with this new guy. He loves my mom to death. And my sisters too. He's been great for her. Their moving out together, and all together their making great choices and furthering their lives. My mom's never been happier and everything's great...but they've only been together 4 months.
He's planning on asking her during their house warming party in front of everyone. And it was really considerate of him to ask for my permission first...Of course I told him "yes". I couldn't deny my mom that happiness. But I gave him one condition..."you are not aloud to get married before me and Andrew."
In retrospect that might have been a little mean to say, but in all reality I think they need the time. She's not technically divorced yet, and he doesn't even know what she's truly like yet. They haven't even lived together. And you all know how living together can change everything.
But I'm terribly worried. Everyday it seems like our wedding is getting more and more forgotten since we've had to push it back so many times. I feel terrible for feeling jealous but it makes me crazy mad.
I just know she's going to steal my thunder. I know she's going to be so eager to get married as soon as possible. But what I really want to know is how in the world is she going to pay for a wedding when she can't even afford to help ME.
I'm almost certain my grandparents are going to pay for it. She's lived with my grandfather for 14 years now. She may be moving out...but she's moving to a townhouse that my Grandmother owns and is going to pay her rent. She's been handed everything all her life. And it makes me mad.
Me and my FI couldn't move in with my Grandfather. Me and my FI couldn't rent the townhouse...I know it's just because they want what's best for us, and that if we ever got ourselves into a bad situation that they'd take us in with open arms. But really!? It makes me so jealous that we're going to have to work for everything and push our wedding back again and again while she's just going to Steamroll right on it and take over the show.
please tell my I'm not crazy for feeling jealous and worried...