My fiance & I have been engaged since Oct. 2009 and will marry Nov 2010. We put the deposit down for our destination wedding in Maui last year. No one offered money to help, and we our paying ourselves. I asked her for a list of immediate family members. I explained to her we needed to combine our own list along with hers with the wedding planner to discuss price and guest list size prior to sending out Save the Date's. Not only did she ask for her best friend to come WTF!!!??? after knowing it was a small intimate affair (guess she wasn't listening?) then seemed pissed when we explained that not everyone's kid, husband or best friend can come. She asked if it was money and if we needed any (now that her guest list is not being met!!)
I explained to her with my mother passing last September & recovering from a major health crisis of 3 years that kept me bedbound I do not want a huge event due to money, energy & that my friends & family our in another town 8 hours away.
She asked me why even send Save the Date's out then if it's a small group, and then why not make them myself if money is a issue. I don't really think she has any real place to be talking to me like that, let alone not listening to me when I ask to let me get a list together before we send any Save the Date's out. I had to fight to finish a sentence. Feel very disrespected & makes me want to not even have a wedding. Surely made me feel better about not having a larger one!!! Do I have reason to feel uncomfortable here??? HELP??!!!