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kimberlygokimberlygo member
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I have three bridesmaids (no maid of honor as I cannot choose between my three best friends). I am not requiring my bridesmaids to do anything except for show up, celebrate the special occasion with me, and wear the dresses and shoes that I pay for. Personally, I have a problem requiring them to pay for a dress that is being chosen for them, though I know that's common practice. Especially since all, but one have just graduated from graduate school and have a lot of other expenses.  I will also pay for their hair and makeup.  Am I still required to buy a present even though I am paying for the dress? 
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Re: BM gifts

  • aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_bm-gifts-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:357Discussion:d3b0b74d-463e-4d58-bdf7-bd163d2617c2Post:ac3d7795-b671-4076-a7fb-7da272bb7d09">BM gifts</a>:
    [QUOTE]I have three bridesmaids (no maid of honor as I cannot choose between my three best friends). I am not requiring my bridesmaids to do anything except for show up, celebrate the special occasion with me, and wear the dresses and shoes that I pay for. Personally, I have a problem requiring them to pay for a dress that is being chosen for them, though I know that's common practice. Especially since all, but one have just graduated from graduate school and have a lot of other expenses.  I will also pay for their hair and makeup.  Am I still required to buy a present even though I am paying for the dress? 
    Posted by kimberlygo[/QUOTE]
    You don't have to, but it would be a nice gesture. 
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  • sister2groomsister2groom
    1000 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Get them at least something small...it can be really small. Like, print out a 4x6 photo of you and them and buy a picture frame from TJ Maxx for $6.
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  • cardarcardar
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    edited December 2011
    I think that is generous of you, and that the gift IS the dress.  You can mention this to them on the day.
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  • laureneslaurenes
    Fourth Anniversary 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    I would still do something very small like mentioned before - a photo in a frame, etc. They probably already know that you're going above and beyond to pay for their outfits, so a major gift isn't required.
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  • seniahseniah
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Dude, if you bought my dress for me I'd get YOU a small gift, hair and make up too?  I'd kiss you! LOL.

    No other trinket is necessary unless you want to.  The dress, hair and make up are plenty gift.
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