Two bridal party questions

GeauxTigers17

I searched for the answer to this so I apologize if I just suck at searching and this has been answered. 

1) How far out should I ask bridesmaids? Wedding is next December. Is asking after Christmas too soon? 

2) I have two sisters I'm making maids of honor (it was a foregone conclusion, my family is super close). My best friend is amazing and already married, so I'm debating asking her to be matron of honor. There will be a total of 7 or 8 bridesmaids if everyone says yes (iffy because one might be moving to South Africa for work and well, there's no way in hell I'd expect her to come back for a wedding)...I know I technically CAN do whatever I want, but brutal honesty, please: is having 2 maids of honor and a matron of honor weird/goofy/eye-roll worthy?

Duren2010

On the first question I cant really help you... I asked my maids about 9 or 10 months out.. knowing that they might need time to save for dresses and such. I would say ask when you are really sure, but remember you have plenty of time.

As for the second, do what you want, its your day! I have a matron of honor and a maid of honor. the kicker is that they are mother and daughter, 39 and 12 respectively. Do what makes you happy!

Beachy730

I would wait until about 9 months out.  If you are wondering why, just take a look at all the posts about brides wanting to kick a BM out, either here or the Wedding Party board.

As for the other situation, personally I'm not even a fan of having a maid and matron, so I'm definitely think 3 is overkill.  I know its probably an unpopular opniion, but to me that title goes to the person you are most nearest and dearest too.  And when you have more than 1 that just tells me you can't decide and don't want to hurt feelings.  And for you, almost half of your attendants would be honor attendants, so I feel like it just says to the other BMs "I'm breaking tradition by having 3 MsOH, but didn't think highly enough of you to break it for you."  Again, just my opinion.  So personally my advice for you is to just have your best friend as your MOH, and your sisters as BMs.  You clearly sound like you're only asking them out of obligation anyways.

AutumnFair

I think usually 9 months and under is good. 

Yes, 2 MsOH is fine. Been one myself and it went just as well as any other wedding.

frogurt814

I also think 3 MOHs is overkill.

nannewmur

Three is a bit much!!

As for asking, you probably have a general idea about their financial situations and know what is the approximate cost for the dress you would like them to wear.  I think a lot depends on person's financial siuation,  cost of dress, if there are travel considerations (such as airfare) and if is coincides with a holiday weekend which can be tricky for some to get off .  If you check off more than two to any of the above, I would say 8-10 months ahead.  If these do not apply to any of your attendants, I would say 6 months is fine.

ellie_spoutz

i asked nov 09 and am getting married july 2011, but I asked my sisters and my lifetime friend, because i knew i wouldn't change my mind, so maybe ask the ones you're 100% not going to regret asking. I only have 1 maid of honor, which is my closest sister, but i thought about doing both, but then i thought about how close i was with one much more than the other and she helped me through a lot. you can have as many as you'd like, because most likely your guests wont really know the difference between BM and MOH, besides the title in the program and maybe their outfit differing a little

ckonidak

You have to do what you feel comfortable with, but honestly, I've never been the kind of person to understand a huge wedding party, let alone 3 MOH's. :-( Sorry. I'm probably in the minority here though so do whatever makes you and the FI happiest!