Shower venue???

SarahP787

Hi Everyone,

I'm the MOH for my friend's wedding, and I'm trying to figure out where on earth we're going to have the bridal shower. The other bridesmaids and I all live out of town, so our places are no go. Is it tacky to have a shower at the bride and groom's apartment??

This is the first wedding I've ever been involved in - if we want to rent a room somewhere, what sorts of places should I be looking for? There will probably be 15-20 people there.

PS: This is my first time posting on this board! Nice to meet everyone I'm also a bride-to-be so you may see me post on other boards about my own wedding too!

tesskerr

I'm not sure about you, but in my country (new zealand) it would be totally fine to host it at the bride and grooms apartment. What about one of their parents or siblings house?

Renting someone may be expensive. You could have it at a hotel, our local one does high tea in the atrium, for around $20 pp, so that sort of thing could be cool. 

One of my friends had hers at the races (horse races) and a cup day, the girls got dressed up and they had hired one of the tented areas, and decorated it. That was crazy amazing, but would have cost a lot.

Good luck!

Muffin'sMom

Ask the bride's mom...we had my daughter's shower at my house because the bridesmaids were young/broke and had tiny apartments!  They did the inviting/planning/hostessing.  I offered up my home and did the food to help with the budget.  I'm a GREAT MOB 

MairePoppy

I agree that Muffin's Mom is great. Check with the MOB, first. She might offer her house or have another suggestion.

You could use the bride and grooms apartment, if you must. If you are only inviting the bride's closest friends and family, they are aware of the circumstances. So I think it would be ok.

In my area, there are social rooms or halls available at the local library, churches and some of the parks. You could post this on the bride's local board. Those people will be more familiar with what's available in that area.

whifflegirl

Is there an area in the office of your friend's apartment?  A lot of apartments have a sort of cabana area that might be available, and oftentimes they're free to residents.  Mine, for instance, has couches and a fireplace with a little kitchen area.  If your friend has something similar, I think it would be perfect.

mandi921vh

15-20 is a small enough event that it could be held in someone's home instead of a restaurant. 

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My shower was held at a condo clubhouse where my hostess lived. The fees were very inexpensive for 5 hours of time.

nancycave

   I'm having my daughter's shower at a local chinese buffet.  They block off a section of the rest. and it's only 11.50pp.  Besides all the buffet food, you can bring in anything you want. I've heard really good things about this place. Good Luck

shipsinthenight

My best friend and I did her sister's shower (also best friend) in December, and we had it in the fellowship hall of my church. It helps that I'm on staff there, her family have been members, and the groom's family are members. We didn't have to pay anything and we were there for probably 6 hours setting up, partying, and tearing down. Whether you want to serve alcohol may have an effect on your location, I don't know how everyone's church or place of worship is about this. We didn't, so that didn't matter. Using their apartment could work if it's big enough though. Lots of restaurants have rooms to rent if you want, and the club house idea is good too. We probably had 30 people show up, and I know that could fly at my parents' house, but not at my 1 bedroom apartment. Maybe 10 or so max for such a small space...

MissCal11

How about a local bakery? My wedding will be a destination for everyone (including me), so my MOH is going to try to do it at the bakery where we are getting our wedding cake. When we were in town, we went there for lunch and they have a really nice patio/back room. My MOH will likely host coffee and tea, and everyone can purchase their own slice of cake or pastry if they like. That way, it is festive, convenient, and not terribly expensive. Although mine will be small (8 people if I'm lucky), you could find a similar place and let the business know you are thinking of it, and would they be willing to work with you. if you offer to do it at an off time (like 2 PM, after lunch), they might be happy for the business during a slow time...