A gift for Mom

radcmr

My mom has gone above and beyond what I expected and I want to her something really nice at the rehearsal dinner to express my gratitude. The problem is, she has everything and doesn't need anything. Anytime she sees something she wants she just goes and buys it. I though about a nice piece of jewelry but she has so much of it already. She already told me not to get her anything but I feel like I really need to. I thought about a gift card to her fave spa but I wanted to give something more meaningful. Does anyone have any ideas? I appreciate any input you can give.

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A nice photo frame that you can put a wedding photo in? A gift card to her favorite store where she likes to shop?

trix1223

Your heart is in the right place.  But first:  I think that unless you're also publicly giving your FMIL a gift at the RD, you shouldn't publicly give your mom a gift at the RD.  And this is coming from a former MOG and MOB.

Imagine how your FMIL would feel if you stood up and extolled your mom and how wonderful she is, and then sat down.....leaving FMIL embarrassed or at the very least, confused.

Now, on to the gift:  As a MOB and MOG, I can tell you that there is nothing that has meant more to me than when my children have written me a letter telling me how much they've appreciated my help in getting them to where they are in life:  their graduations, weddings, etc.

A handwritten letter will be cherished forever.  Some "keepsake"?  Not as much as the letter, I promise.

If you feel that you must give a tangible gift:  get a double frame.  On one side, put a picture of you and your mom at a prior important time in your life:  the day you were born.....your first birthday....a graduation.....your first day of school.....a prom.....you get the idea.

Then on the other side, put the handwritten note, and end it telling her that you'll be filling this side of the frame with a picture of the two of you on your wedding day.  And then be sure to have that photo taken.

Your FI can do the same thing for his mom.  But if you decide to something for your mom only, then make it a very private mom/daughter moment on the morning of your wedding.

GL

Muffin'sMom

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[QUOTE]Your heart is in the right place.  But first:  I think that unless you're also publicly giving your FMIL a gift at the RD, you shouldn't publicly give your mom a gift at the RD.  And this is coming from a former MOG and MOB. Imagine how your FMIL would feel if you stood up and extolled your mom and how wonderful she is, and then sat down.....leaving FMIL embarrassed or at the very least, confused. Now, on to the gift:  As a MOB and MOG, I can tell you that there is nothing that has meant more to me than when my children have written me a letter telling me how much they've appreciated my help in getting them to where they are in life:  their graduations, weddings, etc. A handwritten letter will be cherished forever.  Some "keepsake"?  Not as much as the letter, I promise. If you feel that you must give a tangible gift:  get a double frame.  On one side, put a picture of you and your mom at a prior important time in your life:  the day you were born.....your first birthday....a graduation.....your first day of school.....a prom.....you get the idea. Then on the other side, put the handwritten note, and end it telling her that you'll be filling this side of the frame with a picture of the two of you on your wedding day.  And then be sure to have that photo taken. Your FI can do the same thing for his mom.  But if you decide to something for your mom only, then make it a very private mom/daughter moment on the morning of your wedding. GL
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

This....oh yes.