Long story short, we started off with three bridesmaids -- my best friend since Kindergarten, and my FI's two younger sisters. I'm totally happy to have his sisters in my wedding -- I've never met one of them but I understand how important they are to him and they seem nice enough when I speak to them online. Plus, I want to unite our families.
I digress!
Well, I started to feel weird about having only one BM that I knew really well. It seemed strange to me, so I tried thinking of other women I was close enough to that I would want to have stand up with me. I chose someone who lives in California, and while she was flattered, she said that she wasn't sure if she could make the money situation work (the wedding is in Michigan), but if she could she would stand up for us.
How long do I give her to decide? It's making me anxious that I don't know what to prepare for, or when she'll decide. If she says no, I have someone else I'd like to ask who lives closer, but I'm wondering if I should've asked the latter person in the first place. I know I can't go back on my word, but when should I expect to know?