Soo, yesterday my sister told me that she was not going to be in my wedding. ( I asked her to be in it waaaay back in June when I first announced our wedding date) She told me that she could not handle the financial responsiblities of being a bridesmaid or the emotional aspects( she is going through a divorce and not taking it very well). I offered to pay for her dress, but she said thats not the big reason, the emotional part is the dealbreaker. I tried to be understanding and supportive but I can't hide the fact that I am really hurt and really upset that she would do this to me. I understand how much pain she is in and I am trying to be there for her, but at the same time I can't help but feel she is being selfish because she can't put aside her own feelings for one day to be happy for me. Especially when I gave them 3 months heads up about the cost of the dresses and she is finally telling me now, just a few weeks before they are supposed to all be ordered and half paid for. She told me she was ok with me replacing her but I don't want to replace her. Plus, if I asked anyone now, they would feel second string. I've been crying over this ever since and I need to figure out what to do quick. What would you do?