We've always had problems with her, FI and me..
She wasn't supportive when we told her last year that we were going to get married.She just said that she thought that a wedding is not necessary and we should only do the legal part, like they did. We told her that both of us always dreamt of a beautiful small wedding. But she never showed any interest and didn't seem to care.
6 months before the wedding we wanted to order the paper and cardstock needed for the invitations (DIY and they are fabulous!) I told my FI to ask his mom about their list of guests so that we could complete the guestlist and order everything we needed accordingly. Even though my FI asked her multiple times and pressed on the urgency, because of the invites, she never replied. So we ordered enough material for 100 invites assuming that she wasn't interested in adding guests (we'd still have about 10 left). We also added people we knew she would have invited.
Ok then it's 3 months before the wedding, we get the bridesmaids and groomsmen together and start making all of the invites. As the wedding draws near, we see that we forgot some friends or family members (we knew we were going to invite them, we just forgot to put them on the list).
Now it's 50 days until the wedding and MIL suddenly says to us 'So, I hear you guys are getting married?' OMG! Then we told her we talked about this a year ago, even quoting her, then we said, six months ago, we even asked you for a list of guests (multiple times!) and you know what she says? 'Oh right, I haven't given you the list yet' And I'm in total shock! I then replied 'but the invitations have already been printed and made??'...
Who adds guests 7 weeks before the wedding?? We've already reserved the location, catering, seats, decoration, according to 100 guests! The next day she then sends her list with FI's brother. Her list has 18 families!! (it had 23, but we already invited 5 of them). 18 Families! That's atleast 40 more people. That's 50% of our entire guest list! 50% more food, 50% more seats, 50% more costs!!! And we're paying for the wedding ourselves. They never offered to help, neither financially nor physically! But now she wants to add 50% more costs for us.
So after brainstorming with FI, my mom and the groomsmen and bridesmaids, we came up with some ideas. We added a kiddie tabe, so all the kids can sit together (about 20 kids) So that frees up adult seating for her guests. We know the caterer always makes food for double the guests, so we're praying it'll be enough and we're going to print more invites and make them without the cardstock backing (we're not from the US so it takes about 3-4 weeks for an order of cardstock from the states to get here).
FI is furious with his mom, but there's no talking to her, she's always been this way. She's the kind of person who always makes up an excuse and is always right. So we just try to solve it the best we can without creating a riff this close to the wedding. BTW 40+ more guests is way over our budget! And FI knows none of the 18 families!
Is she trying to kill me?? (not litterally)