why is everyone getting pregnant?

gayleyguinn

Hi all - looking for some advice:

We recently had two great, happy pieces of news in my family!  My sister, who'll be my maid-of-honor in my June 2011 wedding, is pregnant with her second baby!  I'm thrilled - we're very close.  Then, I found out the other night that a close cousin whom I grew up with is also expecting her second child!  Again, totally thrilled. 

The problem?

My wedding date is June 11, 2011.  My sister's due date is June 13, and my cousin's is June 8.  What are the chances?  My cousin and her family (including her parents) live about 5 hours away.  The chances that they'd make it to the wedding right after she gives birth are slim.  What do I do?  I can't imagine a wedding without these important people in my life being there. 

I'm a very laid back bride and have been considering the option of just moving the wedding date, maybe to the end of summer.  We haven't signed contracts for the reception venue.  We have a photographer booked, but that's about it.  (I said that I was laid back).  We did send out save the date emails to friends/family.  I don't really want to wait more months to do this but could if necessary.  We were planning an outdoor wedding and moving the wedding date sooner - to say May - wouldn't work because of weather.  The town where we're getting married sometimes gets random snow flurries in May!

Sorry for the long question ... I'm just really conflicted about what to do ...

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To answer the question in your thread title: life happens. While you can have a planned pregnancy, you can't always control when you will actually conceive. Just be happy for them and let it be.

Is the cousin in your wedding, too? As far as moving your wedding date, it may be wise to do so. I have never had a baby personally, maybe some of the girls that have can help you out better. But if I had to guess, considering it is her second child, she may go a bit early. Therefore, she very well could have the baby before your wedding, but you just never know. Can you move it until the last weekend in June that way if she does have it on time, she can still be a BM and her husband can care for the baby during the actually ceremony?

marissa_claire

Yeah, there's no telling what might happen with the pregnancies - and if anything comes early or late.  I would suggest that if you have yet to book vendors and really nail down that date (telling extended family, no one's made travel arrangements yet) then maybe it would be a good idea to push it back.  Babies are practically never late these days because a few days after the due date, the doc tends to say "let's get this over with!" 

I would also talk it over with your sis and cousin and see how they feel.  They won't be allowed to travel if they're still pregnant, so keep that in mind too.

rknox88

I think if you can move your wedding date to later in the summer and it really doesn't bother you to do so, why not? That way you can ensure that those important family members can be there and you will have two bundles of joy to share in your day as well.

My sister just told me she is pregnant with her 3rd baby and her due date is our actual wedding day-May 28th.  She has gone into labor 3 weeks early with her other 2 children (they were both perfectly healthy-thinking the due date was off a little bit) so maybe she will go early again. Maybe she will go late. Maybe she will be right on time and that baby will have a birthday on Fi and my wedding date. Whatever the case, you just can't control things like this.  Overall, the babies, the wedding, they are all blessings.  It will all work out in the end.

Confession-I will be really upset if she has that baby on my wedding day-but only because I wanna meet the little dude or girl right away! I'm soooooo excited!!!!!!

AutumnFair

If you are laid back that your OK with moving the date, then I would go ahead and move it. I suggest moving it later because most of the time woman are either early, on time, or maybe a week late when it comes to pregnancy. But this is totally your call, but if you really want to make sure that your cousin and that side of the family is there I would be safe and move it back. 

aerinpegadrak

I think that if you really want them there and moving your date will cause no difficulties for you, you should.  Pushing it back 2-3 weeks won't really make that much difference to you in the end, but it will dramatically increase the chances that the new moms will be able to make it there.  I know you didn't mention dresses, but as far as those go, I'd just allow all of your girls to pick a dress in a certain color (maybe a neutral like black or navy) so these two can pick something off the rack closer to the wedding so they don't have to spend a ton on alterations.

eshaufle

I agree with PP that if it's not too much trouble, it might just be easier to push the date back a little bit. 

Or...push it up so you have pregnant bridesmaids who are always adorable IMO :-).  Yes, I wish one of my bridesmaids would get pregnant (I doubt any of them share my enthusiasm though lol).

tidetravel

If you really want those people to be there, and are OK with moving the date, then do so.  Even if your sis/cousin do give birth a few weeks early, they still may not be able to come with a brand new baby in the house.  If you moved it back to the end of July or even early August, the babies would be at least 4-6 weeks old, and easier to either leave with a sitter or bring to a wedding.

deepcovejackie

It kind of depends on how important it is to you to have these women at your wedding.  My guess is that it is important.  I'd move the wedding to later in the summer, maybe the end of August.  Don't put it too close to their due dates.  It will take them at least six weeks to get themselves together post-delivery.  Also they will be screaming busy, so they won't be able to help you out much at all.  Congrats on the two new little family members and on your wedding.

lisab613

i agree with PP, i think i would move it to later in the summer. if you don't have a lot of stuff booked yet, it won't be that big of a hassle. it sounds like you feel it's more important for these women to be there than to stick with your original date. i think i'd feel the same way in your place!

Soon2BMrsClay

oooh that's tough! If you're really cool with moving the date then I would do that; especially if you can't imagine your wedding without them there.

I Want Cake

I agree with the PPs who said to move your date back.  It's pretty fortunate that you don't have everything booked yet.  I just hope you can still get your first choices with less lead time.

Not to scare you or anything, but I was born 5 weeks late, so it is possible.  The doctor tried to induce labor, but it didn't work and my mom had to wait until I was good and ready to come out.

gayleyguinn

Thanks for all the helpful advice!

Last night, I spoke with one of my best friends (who's also part of the wedding party) and she told me ... guess what? 

She's pregnant, too!  She's due two weeks before the wedding.  I'm taking it as a sign  Pregnant sister, cousin, bf = We're going to change the date.  

I'm honestly so happy and thrilled for all the babies.  Good thing our wedding was planned as kid-friendly from start!