Bridal Chorus or not?

babyt6383

Hey all...I met with my musician at our church and when I mentioned that I was wanting to walk down to the Bridal Chorus, he seemed very surprised and went on to say that that was used at much anymore, that it wasnt considered sacred music anymore.  I was just wondering how many of you were planning on/have used the Bridal Chorus to walk down too.  I'm so confused.

Mariah09202008

First of all, don't let a dj talk you out of something that you want.  If that's the song you want to walk down the aisle to, then do it.  I personally didn't use that song because I wanted something different.

babyt6383

well he wasnt just a dj...he is the musician of the church...so I want to be sure to not offend them...but I see what you are saying

bobbileighb

I am walking down to Canon in D but I agree with Mariah if that is what you want then that is what you should do.  A lot of people look at me weird when I say You're the one that I want from Grease will be our recessional song.

BanannaP

Bridal Chorus was never considered a sacred piece, because it comes from an opera, which is a secular genre. But, unless they have a specific rule against using that piece, there's no reason why you can't do what you want.

Tiffany618

I say do what you want!

I'm using it and I love it! 

Mariah09202008

Yeah, I realized after I posted that it was the musician of the church and not a DJ.  But even then, when it comes to your wedding, if you've got something in your head that you've always wanted or imagined doing don't let one person try to talk you out of it.  It's your wedding-not theirs.

fallbride1109

I used it.  It's still used alot, mostly by brides who are very traditional like myself.

BanannaP

Actually, come to think of it, a lot of the traditional wedding music is not sacred. So don't listen to him.

babyt6383

Thanks so much everyone...makes me not feel so crazy for wanting the Bridal Chorus in the first place...haha!  I will be letting them know that I would like to walk to it

juliebug1997

Some churches actually won't let you use it because of Wagner himself and his beliefs.  At CTK, the wedding coordinator told me that most brides were now using "Trumpet Voluntary" but some still used "Bridal Chorus". 

amberpro

The Bridal Chorus isn't allowed at our church because of its secular roots (as Julie mentioned).  I've heard 2 things about it (not sure what is true):  that the opera was a comedy and that the bride killed the groom when she reached the end of the aisle.  Again, don't know for sure- just what I was told.  So not even a choice for me  We are using Trumpet Voluntary for me and Cannon in D for the wedding party.  

If there are no rules about it in your church, I say do what you want

BanannaP

The opera is not a comedy, it's based on a medieval legend. The bridal march is not played for the processional of the wedding, but actually while the bride is being led to the bridal chamber by her maids. She doesn't kill him, but the groom does kill someone else the night of the wedding. 

linzcw04

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[QUOTE]I am walking down to Canon in D but I agree with Mariah if that is what you want then that is what you should do.  A lot of people look at me weird when I say You're the one that I want from Grease will be our recessional song.
Posted by bobbileighb[/QUOTE]

I love that song!!!! We are walking away as man and wife to Accidently in Love by Counting Crows

amberpro

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[QUOTE]The opera is not a comedy, it's based on a medieval legend. The bridal march is not played for the processional of the wedding, but actually while the bride is being led to the bridal chamber by her maids. She doesn't kill him, but the groom does kill someone else the night of the wedding. 
Posted by BanannaP[/QUOTE]

<div>Thanks for clearing that up!  I'd heard so many things I had no idea what was true :)  I just know I'd been told both things.  </div>

babs24

A lot of churches (including mine) don't allow ANY secular music and you shouldn't expect them to bend their beliefs to accomodate you.  Not trying to be harsh/ mean at all, but you have to respect the church's position that the marriage ceremony is you & your groom making a covenant with God to enter into holy union. 

Making a covenant with God (and all of the church practices/beliefs that go along with that) isn't really about you and your wishes for a particular song.  Again, really, really not being mean when I'm saying this, just trying to help you see where your church may be coming from.

Mariah09202008

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_bridal-chorus-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:eaad6628-a77b-424b-9d39-4a1da9504c23Post:48d0f76b-8a8c-4317-85a7-473ba7f468b9">Re: Bridal Chorus or not?</a>:
[QUOTE]A lot of churches (including mine) don't allow ANY secular music and you shouldn't expect them to bend their beliefs to accomodate you.  Not trying to be harsh/ mean at all, but you have to respect the church's position that the marriage ceremony is you & your groom making a covenant with God to enter into holy union.  Making a covenant with God (and all of the church practices/beliefs that go along with that) isn't really about you and your wishes for a particular song.  Again, really, really not being mean when I'm saying this, just trying to help you see where your church may be coming from.
Posted by babs24[/QUOTE]I think it's one thing for a church to not allow you to play the song because it's against their beliefs but she made it seem like the musician was just trying to talk her out of the song because of other reasons not because of the church's beliefs.  If that's the case, then I do think she should switch songs to something that is not secular.

If they want you to play something sacred you could always use Jesu, Joy of Man's Desiring.