My daughter and fiance have been a couple for ten years and I am a proud Granny to their 5 year old daughter. We are very close, so much so that they've given me my own room in their home. I only live 15 miles from them but I've been there to assist with childcare 2 days a week since my granddaughter was born so staying over a few days a week makes sense.
About 6 months ago my daughter started planning their wedding and has enthusiastically included me in everything including asking me to be her Matron of Honor. I was thrilled and accepted of course. I went with them to visit and select the venue. I shopped for the bride's dress and helped her choose and order the most perfect gown. We discussed the flowers, colors, centerpieces, my dress, etc. and I have been nothing but supportive of every choice she's made.
The groom asked his best friend to be Best Man at the same time my daughter asked me to be MOH. The groom has 2 adult sons whom he would like as Groomsmen but they have yet to commit. My daughter has asked two friends to be Bridesmaids and my granddaught will be Flower Girl. My daughter even discussed the wedding procession with me saying that it might be nice to have little one near me so she won't feal shy.
The wedding is still 7 months away but yesterday my daughter told me she thought I might be happier if I didn't have to take such a big part and would enjoy being simply Mother of the Bride. I tried not to appear hurt and waited several hours before approaching her to ask why. She said since it was doubtful the boys would take part she was going to plan a smaller wedding party with just a BM and MOH and a friend who would have been a BM will now be MOH. I said I felt hurt and had tears in my eyes which she called my drama.
I tried to explain myself and was surprised that she was not able to understand my feelings. She saw nothing wrong with removing me in favor of a friend she's known less then a year. I said I would assume whatever role she wanted and would do everything possible to make her wedding day as beautiful as possible but my heart is broken. Am I wrong to be so hurt by this? She tried to brush it off by saying nothing is definite but at this point for me it is.