Right or wrong?

lunajoy23

My step-mom told me the other day "your dad and I decided that we will get a hotel room each for you, your sister and your grandma the night before the wedding."  The hotel rooms were instead of giving us a gift.  My step-mom never asked me where I wanted to stay, she just wanted the list of the hotels in the area.  Both my fiancee and I told her that we wanted to find the hotel.  She ignored us and just kept asking for the list.  I told her that if I couldn't pick the hotel then forget it.  She told me that she wasn't going to pay for either my hotel room or my sister's room--and right after telling me that she booked one for my grandma.  I am so mad that she took the liberty to both decide that she was going to get the hotel rooms, and that she didn't let us pick it.  When I called her on it, that's when she told me she wasn't paying for mine or my sister's anymore.  Is she wrong or am I ungrateful?  Please help!

banana468

I think you're both wrong.

AdeleDazeem

Eh - you didn't want the hotel room anyway.

Go pick the one you want and be done with it.

sb9411

I think that she's wrong. People are particular about where they want to stay on their wedding night! If it was a budget issues for her, she should have made that clear and given you a range to work within.

trix1223

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[QUOTE]I think that she's wrong. People are particular about where they want to stay <strong>on their wedding night</strong>! If it was a budget issues for her, she should have made that clear and given you a range to work within.
Posted by sb9411[/QUOTE]

Unless I read OPwrong, this was for the night BEFORE the wedding, not her wedding night.

marissa_claire

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Right or wrong? : Unless I read OPwrong, this was for the night BEFORE the wedding, not her wedding night.
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

<div>I am also doubly confused by this one.  Are you talking about for your own wedding?  If so, why does your sister matter?  Are you talking about the wedding night or the night before?  </div>

vixey

fiancee = female

fiance = male

And I think it's a silly thing to get all upset about.  She is no longer getting you a hotel room, so just let it go, and pick your own hotel - like you originally wanted to.

TheCranberry

I think it's rational that OP would want a say in what hotel she stays in regardless of whether it's her wedding or not.  If OP didn't express a preference before SM booked the hotel, SM could have lost money (if she had booked on Expedia or another travel site for instance).  It's also weird that your sister lost out on a room because of this.  What does she have to do with this fight?

OP, how did you communicate all of this to your SM?  Maybe she was offended and that's why she rescinded her offer.

SeptemberFall2011

I think your stepmom is in the total wrong.  She should have been patient for you and the fiance.

Muffin'sMom

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[QUOTE]She pays, she picks. It's a gift, so either accept it graciously or decline it.
Posted by RetreadBride[/QUOTE]

This!

zitiqueen

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[QUOTE]My step-mom told me the other day "your dad and I decided that we will get a hotel room each for you, your sister and your grandma the night before the wedding."  The hotel rooms were instead of giving us a gift.  My step-mom never asked me where I wanted to stay, she just wanted the list of the hotels in the area.  Both my fiancee and I told her that we wanted to find the hotel.  She ignored us and just kept asking for the list.  I told her that if I couldn't pick the hotel then forget it.  She told me that she wasn't going to pay for either my hotel room or my sister's room--and right after telling me that she booked one for my grandma.  I am so mad that she took the liberty to both decide that she was going to get the hotel rooms, and that she didn't let us pick it.  When I called her on it, that's when she told me she wasn't paying for mine or my sister's anymore.  Is she wrong or am I ungrateful?  Please help!
Posted by lunajoy23[/QUOTE]