MIL and Invites

saskatchewanbride

My fiance and I recently set a date for our wedding.  We are now dealing with the amount of invites.  Our facility hold 250 people.  for invites I think me and my fiance should get a say and we have said immediate famiily, and close relatives and close friends.  My MIL already has a list of 100 people to invite and many are relatives that I have never met and we have been together for nearly 10 years.  How do we get the point across that she needs to draw the line somewhere?

aerinpegadrak

Who's paying?  If MIL isn't paying for anything, then your FI can tell her how many invitations she's allotted, and that if she can't cut the list down on her own by [insert date here], he'll do it for her.  If she is paying, then it's her party and you're just along for the ride unless you decline her money.

sarah42nd

I agree with Aerin.

zitiqueen

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[QUOTE]My fiance and I recently set a date for our wedding.  We are now dealing with the amount of invites.  Our facility hold 250 people.  for invites I think me and my fiance should get a say and we have said immediate famiily, and close relatives and close friends.  My MIL already has a list of 100 people to invite and many are relatives that I have never met and we have been together for nearly 10 years.  How do we get the point across that she needs to draw the line somewhere?
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Kate61487

ditto PP that it depends if MIL is hosting or not. 

If she's not then make up your own list - see who on her list makes it onto yours.  When you're done if you still have space left in your 250 then you can offer some to her and see who she still wants that didn't make your first cut.  Hopefully she'll understand that there is a physical limit your facility can hold.

Muffin'sMom

Tell her how many people she can invite...not how many invitations.  They are not the same thing!  Give her a date to have the list to you.  Be very kind but very matter of fact.  Don't get emotional or sound indecisive.

Good luck!

mandi921vh

Who is paying?