Night before wedding...

NMac2010

Hey ladies,

My wedding is coming up..8-14!

I know it's tradition for the bride and the groom to stay in seperate places the night before the wedding. FI and I live together, and it would be a hassle for us to find places to stay, not to mention...I really don't want to stay with anyone else but him!

Is anyone else staying with their FI the night before the wedding?

TIA!

bsn1752

I'm not... and we've lived together for about 4 years.  All of my BM's and I are staying at my MOH's mother's house (its a huge house) and hanging in the hot tub and relaxing the night before!  It'll be a nice change of pace.

cfibelkorn

I think I am. My bridesmaids want me to stay seperated from him the night before but I don't think I would sleep well with him not in the same bed as me....what would I do without laying there for 30 mins trying to go to sleep while he is snoring HAHA

Really though...I too have lived with my FI for a few years and I don't see what the big deal is. Honestly, your basically only going to see him when you wake up. Then you will rush off to go do last minute touches and hair or makeup.

I say stay with him

melissaandjoel

We also lived together prior to our wedding and ended up spending the night before the wedding together. It was just easier that way because we lived close to our venue.

stephl3055

If you've lived together that long, I don't think it's necessary to sleep separately, especially if one of you would have to get a hotel room.  We didn't stay together because he stayed over at his mom's house along with a lot of OOT relatives.  But I think this is becoming less of a tradition as more people live together prior to getting married.

Jeff and Deepthi

I guess it's not an option for me cause we don't live together and there is no way our families would allow that.
cfibelkorn has a point though it's not like you get to spend to much of the day together. It take hours for us to get ready.

Donnaaries

We lived together for about 3 years before the wedding, but I stayed at the hotel in the bridal suite and he stayed at home the night before the wedding.  I will say though, I didn't sleep very well at all, not sure if it was just the new environment (not my own bed) or just the excitement of the wedding.

serlace

We're not - I'm also going to stay with my BMs. But, I'm no means traditional - so I think it's fine if you do. 

bdettecrow

I agree with Steph. Tradition is much different now than it was even 5 years ago! We didn't live together before we were married. Ga! we didn't even sleep in the same bed before we were married (he's very traditional). So he ended up staying at our apartment the night before the wedding and I stayed in a hotel suite with my parents and MOHs.

shortgirltx

We stayed at our place the night before and then went our separate ways around 11 am the next day.

SarahandAlex2010

I dont think we will. I will probably stay at my moms because it will be easier since we have alot to do. And I think he is staying with his brother. But we are not traditional either. It will be easier for us to do it this way. He might stay at the apartment or his brothers. we are not sure yet.

NMac2010

Ok, thanks for the feedback!

I feel better knowing we're not the only people out there going the non traditional route. Like a lot of you, I'm not sure I would get much sleep without him next to me. Lame, I know, but it's the truth!

And I guess in the grand scheme of things, something like that isn't going to make your day any less special when it's all said and done!

Hester930

i hadn't thought about that!!!  lol...geez.  i know i'll have a hard time sleeping, him not being next to me.  however, we will probably pull something along the lines that bsn1752 mentioned...i'll stay w BMs and MOH at the MOH's house (she has a large house, herself)...hot tub, relaxation...it'll be fine.  we've lived together for over a year...we have a house, he'll probably have the guys at our house.  when i was a bridesmaid for a friend of mine, the bridal party all stayed at the couple's house...the groom stayed with his buddies...
i like some element of tradition...i do.  doesn't mean there's a "right" and "wrong"...anymore, atleast!

linzcw04

I've lived with my FI for almost 4 years...the BMs and I are staying at my parents house the night before and the boys are hanging out at our house (hopefully not going to crazy the night before!)
My FI loves to be around me, awww , so I think him not seeing me for the entire night and next day until I walk down the aisle will make it even more special. But I wouldn't rent a hotel room just for the purpose of not staying with him. It just worked out this way.

NMac2010

Hester-

That would be nice to have a night with the MOH and BM's...however, my situation is kinda sucky. My MOH will have a brand new baby girl (6 weeks old), and already has 2 other small kids so she won't want to stay overnight with me, as much as I would love it, I completely understand!  My other two BM's, one lives in Tyler, so she'll be driving down, and the other is FI's sister who I'm not close with, so having a girls night with just her, and my best friend from Tyler would be a little...weird.

SO, just seems easier to stay with FI, at our place and go our seperate ways in the morning.

Tiffany618

We stayed separately but not really because of tradition.  I stayed in a hotel suite with my girls the night before because the venue was about 45 minutes from our houses.  It was just easier than having 5 people drive to the RD and home, and then turn around and drive back to the venue the next day.

FI & I stayed in the same suite after the wedding so we didn't have a long drive home.

TexanTreasure08

Tiffany, don't you mean husband? 

sparklingdiamond

We are staying together.  We live together and we live close enough to the venue, so its not worth it to spend the money to get a hotel room or anything.

Tiffany618

Angela - Oh my gosh, yes!!  I can't get used to that...or his name! Oops

danac2010

We are staying seperately but because all the GM are going to be at our house and then me and all the BM will stay at my hairstylist house and get up in the morning and have brunch and start getting our hair done.  It works out easier for us since I ahve 8 BM to get ready!

emimayor

We stayed apart. It was fun to have a night with the girls before the wedding. I didn't sleep well, but that wasn't because he wasn't next to me. I think thats silly. I didn't sleep well because I was freaking excited about getting married the next day! I say sleep apart if you can - it makes it a lot more exciting!!!

Hester930

I don't know how "silly" it is to have a little issue sleeping totally sound if he's not there...but I agree that the excitement and anticipation of the marriage...and seeing him as my husband...would only build up...in a good way.  I like the idea of that tradition and spending the preliminary time with the women close to me in my life.