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Someone to usher my mother and grandmother down the aisle?

So... maybe I wasn't thinking properly about this whole wedding, but I hadn't planned for anyone to usher my mother and my grandmother down the aisle to their seats.  Is this a custom? Tradition? Ettiquette?  It's not that I can't have someone do it, just that we are having a short, simple, outdoor ceremony and this is my first wedding, not to mention I am the first child of 5 to get married and haven't been in a wedding in a very long time.  Nor have I noticed this done at other weddings.What is the right thing to do here, and who should usher them if that is what should be done?  I should mention that my father passed away and my brother is walking me down the aisle.Thanks!!!

Re: Someone to usher my mother and grandmother down the aisle?

  • You could have his best man take them down, or just have them walk together without an escort, but part of the procession.
  • Your grandmother can be seated at any time.  She doesn't need a special walk down the aisle. Typically the seating of the MOB signals that the wedding ceremony is beginning.  I'm a church organist, and once the MOB is seated, I begin to play the processional music.  So typically, MOB is emphasized as the cue to begin.Your mom can walk down with anyone she'd like....does she have a brother or other family member?  How about an usher or GM with whom she's close?  Maybe a family friend who could escort her in?
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
  • We just got married August 30th and we originally didn't have planned for anyone to walk our mother's down. We didn't even know that it was 'proper' to do so until I read something on theknot. about it two weeks before the wedding. So we just had DH walk down with the reverend; then when we were ready to begin, he walked down to get his mother to seat her, then when back for my mother to seat her. I was happy I found out about doing it, because it turned out so nice.
  • In many weddings, the GM's are often the ushers.  My brother will be a GM in my wedding and he's the only boy in our family (so naturally my gmothers ADORE him) so I'm going to have him walk my grandmothers down the aisle.  I feel like (not sure about this though) that I have seen husband's walk the mother down the aisle.  I know at one wedding the parents of bride and groom walked down the aisle, did one half of the unity candle then seated the mothers and the fathers went to wherever they were supposed to be.  That's the only wedding I've been to recently so that's the only thing that comes to my mind!As someone said earlier, a grandmother doesn't have to have a special place to be seated.  However, I often see "seating of the gparents" in the program.  But that is your choice!
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