Like those of many little girls, my Barbie dolls went through vigorous weddings: long lacy white dresses, veils, high heels, miniature paper flower bouquets. They spent hours at pretend altars, standing next to Ken, frozen smiles in place, while I recited all the vows I knew: For better or worse, in sickness and health, etc. etc. Not having access to weddings other than those I saw on TV and in movies, this is the way I'd always envisioned my own wedding... well, without the frozen smile, but you get the gist.
When I met my FI, I admit I didn't quite grasp what I was getting myself into. I didn't realize how different Greek Orthodox customs really are from my midwestern, Protestant upbringing. I love my fiance, and I honestly cannot imagine being without him. He makes me happy in a way I didn't know anyone could. But he told me before we were even really talking about marriage that when he got married, it would have to be a Greek Orthodox ceremony. I agreed, because I love him, and at the end of the day, I don't care how things happen so long as it ends with me getting to marry my lovely man.
At the same time, I've been having some... misgivings? I love some of the Greek wedding traditions - the stefana, taking a first walk as husband and wife, and even just the beautiful grandiose church it all takes place in. But I'm worried that down the road, I'll really regret not getting to say those vows. It's such a petty little thing, I know, but I'm already sad about it - and worried that it's just going to be something I always regret. I just can't imagine not getting to say "I do."
I know that traditionally the wedding takes place in the bride's church and all, so I'm wondering if there's anyone else who's giving up her wedding expectations to make her fiance happy...