Shower v bachelorette gift

graysquirrel

I am going to a shower and bachelorette on the same night for the same girl. Do I need to get her two gifts? Can I give her a fun, sexy gift at the shower, or is that only for traditional gifts?

pandasquishy

I would stick with something more traditional for the shower, especially considering her older relatives will probably be in attendance for that.  You could get her something fun as a little extra for the bachelorette, but where I'm from no one really gives bachelorette gifts.

aerinpegadrak

I've never heard of giving gifts at a bachelorette party.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I think a good "gift" at a b-party is to buy the bride a drink, or chip in for dinner. I think a good gift for a shower is something off the registry.

SuMmErKuTiE

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_shower-v-bachelorette-gift?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:2ea4efd8-c271-4911-b804-b969bd680a66Post:787f3fa2-cc0a-42c2-8d25-91ccc1257825">Re: Shower v bachelorette gift</a>:
[QUOTE]I think a good "gift" at a b-party is to buy the bride a drink, or chip in for dinner. I think a good gift for a shower is something off the registry.
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

Ditto this... normally the gifts I've seen given at the bachelorette are lingerie, drinks, and everyone chipping in to pay for the bride for the evening. As for the shower, I'd stick to the registry.

christinelyn0131

DO NOT GIVE THAT POOR GIRL LINGERIE AT HER SHOWER!!

I can only imagine poor old Aunt Fifi having a heart attack when the crotchless panties are unveiled. Plus, it's against etiquette.

Get her a toaster for the shower, and something sexy for the bachelorette party.  I've actually never heard of a bachelorette party NOT doing gifts.

deb84

You are not required to give her a gift for either event.  If I were you I would get a shower gift off of the registry and if you choose to give a gift for the bachelorette party it can anything from sexy lingerie & sex toys to wine, a CD of romantic music or a gift card for a spa service (think Manicure, pedicure or massage).  Bachelorette Gifts don't have to be naughty...even candles, bubble bath or lotion are acceptable gifts for such an event.