Wedding Day in the Middle of the Week?

bdennis12497

My boyfriend and I have been talking about getting married and have been talking about wedding dates. We really like 7/3/2013, its our 5 year anniversary.  Then I found out its on a Wednesday and was disappointed because I was worried about people being able to attend. Am I worrying to much or it is a better idea to have the wedding on a weekend?

bethsmiles

I like Saturday weddings because I usually won't have to take off work or I can take of the least amount of work. Friday weddings I don't mind as long as they start late and Sunday weddings are fine too. The middle of the week would be difficult for alot of guests especially those who have to travel. 7/3 is my birthday though so it is an awesome date just not for a wedding. The thing with picking a wedding date is that no matter what date you pick its going to be special so you don't need to try to add any more to it.

However it is your day and if that is the day you want and you are okay with people not being able to attend then there is nothing wrong with the date.

Amaryllis619

the only mid-week wedding I attended was a JOP, and the we went to dinner afterwards.  I was back home by 10.  I still had to take time off work to get there on time, but the couple is my FI and mine super close friends.  If it had been anyone else there's no way I would have gone. 

I detest Friday weddings unless they start super late- like 8 so I have enough time to finish work, change, and get there on time. 

Saturday is really your best bet.

Also, like pp said you don't have to assign a special meaning to your wedding day, it will already be special since that's the day you got married! If you really want to get married close to your dating anniversary, then i'd pick the weekend after...

of course in your case that means a forth of July weekend.  So I'd think about that too.  Are people going to be pleased to take their holiday weekend for your wedding?
GL!

megk8oz

Unless it was one of my siblings (Possibly one of my first cousins, even that's very tentative) or my "very bestest friend in the whole wide world", I wouldn't attend a mid-week day wedding, I wouldn't even bother trying to. My PTO is limited and precious. And unless you were getting married nearby, attending would most likely entail having to take the day of and the day after off. And I can assure that you will have a lot of guests that are in a very similar position

Depending on where and what time, I would make my best efforts to attend a Friday night wedding. I actually had a Friday night wedding, but it was also on an actual holiday, so most of our guests had the time off, anyway, and we had a good turn out (New Year's Day ... most of the people we know party the night before, but have no actual plans that day, so it really didn't interfere with anything). But like the mid-week wedding, attending might require me taking the full day off from work, and again, that's not always feasible for me.

Whatever date you get married on, it's going to be a special date. DH and I actually got married 18 days before our "dating" anniversary. We plan to still do a nice dinner or something on the dating anniversary, but the wedding one is the one we will actually celebrate.

Basically, only you and your FI can decide if the date is more important than guest turn-out. If you want a huge bash, go with the Saturday. If you're ok with only having like 20-30 guests and doing something small (Just dinner or something), then do whatever date you want.

ExpatPumpkin

Please don't get so caught up on getting married on a certain date that you lose sight of all practicalities...  If you have it on a weekend your guests will be much more relaxed and in the festive mood.  Plus, this way you'll have two anniversary dates  

mdbigday

My cousin is getting married next week on a Thursday, like you it's their "kiss-aversary" (lol).  If the date is significant to you then you should definately do it!  Also, getting married during the week is about 1/3 the cost vs. getting married on a traditional Saturday; if budget is of importance to you then consider that too.  However, you'll probably not have a high attendance rate, especially if you have guests out of town.  And, if you plan on having a ceremony during the day as well as night reception, there probably won't be a lot of people at the ceremony because of work.  Also, not that many people will be staying late to "celebrate" with you, again due to work.  Ultimately, it's up to you and the guests that are important to you and your fiancee will definately make an effort to attend.

Good Luck in the decision making!

LesPaul

Consider how many guests can not/will not attend midweek and go from there.  If it doesn't really matter to you that a potentially large percentage of your guests will not be able to attend, then go ahead.  I would be very uncomfortable putting people in a position where they had to take vacation days off to attend my wedding. 

spinner84

If you want a big wedding, then yes, having it in the middle of the week is very silly. If you want a justice of the peace type wedding then it's fine. But don't expect lots of people to show up!

bdennis12497

I think we might do the ceremony on the Wednesday and have the reception on the following Saturday. Depending on how many guests we are going to invite.  We don't really want a large wedding.

topchef33

I wouldn't be able to attend a wedding in the middle of the week. I get up before 5:30 so I'm usually in bed by 9, and I shower at  night.

I think a Friday or Saturday wedding would be more accomodating to your guests. I guess you just have to decide what is more important to you.

GL

MyNameIsNot

If you want people to come, do it on a weekend.  

Weekdays are very inconvenient for most people, and they won't make it, or it will be a huge pain for them to.  

The day you get married will be special, because it will be your wedding day.  Basing it on some dating anniversary is not a good reason to be so inconsiderate of your guests.

jazzycazy

We're getting married on a Wednesday because we're having a destination wedding. We also like the date too as we wanted to get married last year on 5th May and this way it's 5-5-10 which we liked so for us it's not been an issue. 

Plus we got sooooooo many more better deals with vendors having it mid week. I see pros and cons but at the end of the day, it's your wedding - have it when you want.

xjcx

bdennis12497

[QUOTE]Basing it on some dating anniversary is not a good reason to be so inconsiderate of your guests.
Posted by MyNameIsNot[/QUOTE]
The date is not 100% that is why I'm asking opinions.  If I didn't care how other people felt then I would be "inconsiderate".

That day was just the first day we happened to think of and didn't realise until now that it was on a Wednesday.  We aren't planning on getting married until probably 2013 so we are looking at new dates.

Thank you everyone for all of the advise !!

drileybubeck

I voted Saturday, but I like Fridays too.  Saturday for obvious reasons, but Fridays are fun because they kick off your weekend.  The only downside is that you have to start it late enough that people will be able to make it from work.

sbily2010

i wish i could find it again but i was reading somethings about customs and traditions and found that it's considered good luck to have a wedding on a Wednesday and "Saturday's are for no luck at all" each day of the week had some meaning for something Thursdays if i remember right were for funerals. i'll be getting married on a WEDnesday! but i realise if people make it they make it if not thats fine too.

Amy_Justin

July 3rd does fall on the day before a major holiday, so you have to consider that too. Some guests might decline due to yearly upstanding plans, and others might be able to make it (when they otherwise wouldn't have) because some people have July 4th off. I think that most people tend to be irritated with weddings on holidays though, JMO.

Honestly, I wouldn't skip my July 3rd plans for anyone except a sibling, child, or parent's wedding. Sorry.

May 3rd falls that year on a Friday, maybe you would want to consider May 3rd instead. August 3rd falls on a Saturday in 2013, so that's another possibility.

sborhani84

When I asked my FI what he cared about for the wedding he had two requests: it be on a Saurday and it be open bar! 

bdennis12497

I think we decided to have a small personal wedding on Wednesday and a bigger reception on the following Saturday.  But like I said before we have alot of time to move the date around.

Again thank you everyone !!