Out of town guests

amandafielding

We are going to a wedding in June that is 2 states away.  My fiance is the best man.  He and his fiancee have scheduled a full week of activities and want the wedding party in town FIVE days before the wedding!  Does anyone else think that's ridiculous?  This guy will be the best man in our wedding, and we aren't expecting the same of him.  I just don't feel that I should waste a week of my vacation at work on someone else's wedding.

MyNameIsNot

Yes, that's ridiculous.  And your FI is totally in line to say "sorry, but I can't take that much time off work."  Our wedding was on a Saturday.  Our OOT WP members came in Thursday night or Friday morning.  Taking one day off work was hard enough.

(I didn't ask them to get there on any particular date, I would have been fine if they'd come in Friday night or Saturday morning.)

danieliza1127

Yeah that is ridiculous!  I'm sure you guys can work something out though.  If your FI wants to go that early but you can't or don't want to, he can go and you can always fly in the day before the wedding.  Or he can tell the groom that he can't get that much time off work.

amandafielding

They live in Williamsburg, VA and have planned some activities like a day trip to DC, Busch Gardens, checking out colonial Williamsburg, etc.  Luckily for them, my FI is a student and will be on summer break then, so he can actually be there.  I, however, work full time and am not willing to take that much time off.  My FI doesn't think it's out of the ordinary to be there that early.  It's exasperating!  Just glad to see that someone else is on my side!

trix1223

Tha's really inconsiderate.  And I just have to ask:  all these "activities"~are the bride and groom paying for them?  Admission to Busch Gardens isn't cheap, and paying for a week's worth of hotel room, meals, etc. is also very expensive.

Unless the B&G are footing the bill for all this "fun", I'd be saying thanks, but no thanks.  I'll be there in time for the wedding.  WP expenses are high enough with adding a couple thousand more in "fun for a week" expenses.

lostsoule77

I agree with you and everyone else.  That is ridiculous.  If you don't want to then don't!  Just send your regrets and head down the night before or day of.  If your fiance wants to, and you guys can afford it, let him head down when they want.

squirrelly29

We are having mostly out of town guests and planning some activities but they are all optional, if people want to make a long weekend or vaca of it, its a baseline of things for them to do. But the bridal party only has to be there for rehearsal day before.

Its really ballsy asking you to take off work and pay for a hotel that many nights. I would say, thanks but no thanks, also!

Sarah-Jean

"It's your day! You get a day, not a week" - Miranda to Charolette on Sex & The City. (Sorry-I saw this episode last night & thought it went good w/ this post).