Mom is mad that I did not ask Dad to help pay for my wedding!!!!

ashachilds

I really need some help with this from people who do not know my family.  My mom and dad are divorced and my dad has never really been really big in my life growing up.  He was at special occasions such as my Sweet 16 birthday and my graduation, but never at the small things or really into what I was doing and how I was growing up.  My FI and I are perfectly content on paying for the wedding ourselves, but my mom has been hounding me about asking my dad to contribute.  I don't want to ask him to because I feel if anyone helps us to pay for it they will feel as though they have some power to control how the wedding and reception will turn out.  Should I go against what I feel and ask my dad or should I just tell my mom to leave it alone and just go with what I want to do?

MairePoppy

You should tell your mom to mind her business - but probably in a nicer way. She should be proud of you for managing your wedding expenses on your own.

WhatawagSBNy

    This is not child support - even the best and most attentive father in the world has no obligation to contribute to a grown child's expenses.

    Tell your mother she should be proud to have raised an independent adult, able to manage her own earnings,  and in conjunction with FI,  pay your own way.

    Now, Mom, beyond that is not any of your concern.

lalap69

I 100% agree with PP's advice.  It sounds like you have been handling this very well so far - good for you, you're exactly right.