Seems to be a big deal to everyone else when it comes to who walks me down the aisle!

ClovesR

Hey guys!
I have been kind of stuck on a issue within my wedding. My parents divorced when I was young and my father passed away when I was 12. I didn't know him very well or his family. Now that I am getting married in about a year I have decided for my half brother-in-law, to walk me down the aisle. This of course caused the biggest issue in the world. My future husbands family is all about what makes him and I happy. But my family is not happy at all. The only thing that I fear is someone saying something at the wedding, I don't care about now I will stick to my decision. I just don't want it as a issue on my wedding day....do you think i need to make it a point to sit them all down and tell them my decision is final?
Thanks a ton!

nda_roxybabe

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What is your familys issue with it? Has someone in your family offered to walk you down the aisle? I would just explain to your family why you want fbil to walk you down.

snoangel79

This happened to my mom, a lot of the older family were pissed but she did it anyways.

My grandfather passed when my mom was a teen and she wasn't close to his brothers at all. Well when it came to her getting married a few on that side didn't come to the wedding because of it. She had my grandmother's brother- in- law (her uncle by marriage) walk her down. He was more of a father figure than anyone else to her, him and my great aunt helped my grandmother put the pieces back together as a single mom. We considered him our grandfather too.

My best friend had her step-dad and mom walk her down the aisle, father was not even invited because he was a horrible person.

It's the people who stand by you and love you and it's your choice!!! Explain if you need to, if they still have an issue oh well!

bbyckes

I hope no one says something during the wedding, but I think that would be unlikely overall.  I would suggest that you make your decision and if anyone has an issue with it, you can speak to them one-on-one.  At the end of the day, it is what you would like and you should not be forced to do something that would make you uncomfortable or feels disingenuous.

MrsJG2Be

I'll probably walk by myself down the aisle. My dad will be invited to the wedding but that's it.

RandieK

My own plans for me walk down the aisle are a little unconventional but I feel that a woman deserves to please herself on her wedding day.  I have two men in my life that i call "dad".  To avoid hurt feelings, I plan on walking myself down the aisle.  this way i do not have to pick between the two.  I also feel that I am a grown woman and i do not need any man to give me away.  My family understands that this is how i feel and that they shouldnt even try to change my mind.  I think you should make your decision and stick to it.  ITS YOUR DAY!!!

sophs_ro

If they don't come because of this then maybe you don't want them there anyway?

I think we all have a fear of someone saying something at the wedding that puts someone's nose out of joint but in truth i think most people have the common decency to know this is a massive faux pas.

I think i'm going to walk down the aisle with my FI's two little children (will be 8 and 6)