Can we see each other the morning of the wedding?

tla148

My mom mentioned to me that my Fiance and I aren't suppose to see each other prior to the wedding, even that morning. I thought this was only true once I was in my dress. We live together so this is somewhat of an issue. Should one of us stay elsewhere the night before the wedding?

FutureMrsMcDaniel

It's really not an issue at all.  It's up to you.  Do you want to stay together the night before?  If so, then do it.  If you don't, then don't.  There's nothing you have to do.
 
I guess it could be considered 'tradition' that you're not together the night before or that he doesn't see you before the wedding, but people stay together the night before and have 'first looks' and it doesn't make their marriages a sham.
Do what you want. 

shortyhartz

My fiance and I will be spending the night before our wedding apart because we are getting married where we both grew up so we can stay at our parents' homes.  However, we will see each other before the wedding because we are doing pictures before the ceremony.  We don't have much time for photos between the ceremony and reception but want some great shots!  

I'm actually really excited to see him before and have our "first look" be an intimate moment with just me and him (and the photographer) rather than in front of 300 people.  

Long story short...I think you should do whatever you want to do.  Seeing him before you get married won't determine if you have a good marriage or not.  But sometimes it is fun to carry on some "classic" wedding traditions.

janedoe1113a

My FI and I saw each other the morning of the wedding and then seperated to go get ready.  Our married hasn't imploded yet.

handfast4me

We had a weddingmoon, therefore we were in the same hotel the night before the wedding, spent the day together, and got dressed together for our sunset ceremony.  It was very calming to have him there, and I wouldn't have changed it at all.  (For my first wedding, in 1985, we did the traditional thing of not seeing one another, and 18 years later, we're divorced.  Just wanted to mention that in case superstition was a factor.)

aerinpegadrak

We saw a whole lot of each other the morning of the wedding.   

trix1223

Yes.  The wedding police won't invalidate your marriage if you see each other the morning of the wedding.  It's a superstition.  Nothing more.

angiems97

I used to think I would never go for seeing my fiance before the ceremony. But as I have gotten older and we have been wedding planning, we are doing pics beforehand to save on time between the ceremony and the reception.  Our photographer plans this out well and has me walk down the aisle to him when it is just us and we have our own moment before all the pics begin.  Traditionally, you guys are not supposed to see each other at all and stay the night at seperate places, but that is getting to be an older tradition. 

[Deleted User]

Ditto pp. It is entirely up to you. Some brides do it and do pics before to make the use of their time & not have guests waiting too long for the reception to get started. It really depends on what you and your FI want and the time & place you are getting married.

miah_23_ncb

i think u should  do whatever u want too!

bbyckes

It's entirely up to you.  I am staying somewhere else the night before the wedding, but only because we will have a house full of guests.  I think FI is planning on staying somewhere else as well.  You can definitely see each other the morning of the wedding.  I think those who choose not to, do it for tradition purposes, but also because they wish to build up the momentum of seeing the other person for the "first time."

graysquirrel

I just don't think that it is practical to wait till you walk down the aisle. If it is important to you, then wait, but taking pictures, getting little details taken care of, and having your best friend there beside you is much more important IMHO.

NicciSal91

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_can-see-other-morning-of-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:d7e5fc82-0770-4ca5-b2d3-d003cf9bcc34Post:b50a06b9-d4f3-4255-a452-1826490a876f">Re: Can we see each other the morning of the wedding?</a>:
[QUOTE]We saw a whole lot of each other the morning of the wedding.  ;) 
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]

haha i love this :)

tiffersnc

I think we're sleeping in separate rooms, but we're doing first look photos ... so we'll see each other before the ceremony. You should do whatever you feel comfortable with.

emma_stegall19

I think this is totally up to the couple. I dont think it wil ruin anything if you stay together the night before. It might be special to be apart, so you can relax and just anticipant want is to come the next day. I feel as if either choices would be ok. I plan on staying with my MOH that night,

Jason&Jenn

I think it is up to you. I will be staying at my mom and dad's house the night before and my fiance will be staying at our house with some of the groom's men. I had always planned it that way because my fiance is a night owl and I am an early bird. I can get my day going for my appt's without having to tip-toe while he sleeps.

Do what you feel is the most calming/normal to you.