Can the bride see the tux?

raganw

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trix1223

No.  If you see the tux before the wedding the wedding police will invalidate your wedding.

Really?  What do you think will happen if you see the tux before the wedding?  That's just silly.

raganw

Wow trix1223...  sounds like you need a cocktail...

aerinpegadrak

Sure she can.  And *gasp* the groom can see the dress, too.  Don't fetishize clothing, it's weird.

None of your poll options applied to me.  I knew which tux DH picked, but he dressed himself like a big boy.

kaynix21

I don't think there are any wive's tales or whatever about seeing the tux, so that's fine.

And of course your FI could see you dress if you didn't want to keep it a surprise. I don't want FI to see it, so we're doing it that way. The first time he sees it will be when I walk down the aisle.

I would have probably gone with him to pick out a tux if he had needed to do that, but he's wearing his military dress uniform. I did go with him to pick out the GM tuxes though.

trix1223

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_can-bride-see-tux?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:e5e53b7b-a05a-4b1a-8b5c-19409642a0caPost:7fc3bdcd-82bf-475a-ad0d-160eeb45f9d1">Re: Can the bride see the tux?</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow trix1223...  sounds like you need a cocktail...
Posted by raganw[/QUOTE]

Nope.  Just giving a reality check where one was needed.

jrksle

I didn't answer the poll either. None of the options really work.  There is a tradition that the bride's dress not be seen, but there is not a similar tradition for the groom.  I don't think it matters either way. It should be up to each couple to decide how many details to reveal.

FI is going with his brother to pick out tuxes. He wanted a boys shopping trip, similar to the girls trip i had when looking for my dress.  That being said, if he starts to feel uncertain about what he's picking out, I'm on call to come and help.  He's still not sure if he wants me to see the tux before the wedding, so I think what will decide it is if I get called in for backup.  He's never picked out a tux before, but I fully trust him to find something that looks nice. I'm a little worried about his brother's "help", but I think they'll be fine.

Festiva

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_can-bride-see-tux?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:e5e53b7b-a05a-4b1a-8b5c-19409642a0caPost:7fc3bdcd-82bf-475a-ad0d-160eeb45f9d1">Re: Can the bride see the tux?</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow trix1223...  sounds like you need a cocktail...
Posted by raganw[/QUOTE]

lol
some pp's have to get in a dig...no matter how harmless the question!

Anyway- I don't think it's bad luck...but if you want to keep it a surprise, then that can be sweet and romantic.  I however....would really like to know  in what direction he's going at least (for the sake of pictures) but ultimately it is his choice.

=)

jennylove810

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_can-bride-see-tux?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:e5e53b7b-a05a-4b1a-8b5c-19409642a0caPost:d160a558-3384-4d9b-a6c1-86c3a8dd0be0">Re: Can the bride see the tux?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Can the bride see the tux? : Nope.  Just giving a reality check where one was needed.
Posted by trix1223[/QUOTE]

If you *want* a cocktail, you can come drink with me, I'm always game :)

TupeloChick

Most women actually choose the tux so I guess they can see it. I didn't see the tux DH wore because I let him pick it out himself and I trusted him to pick a nice one so I never asked about it. As for my dress, I just thought it would be nice to surprise him as I walked down the aisle at how good I looked. I don't believe it's bad luck.

trix1223

Thanks Jenny.  Are the margaritas ready? 

janedoe1113a

We picked out the tux together and I went with him to the fitting and saw him in it.  I've seen him dressed up before, so it wasn't a big deal.

[Deleted User]

We decided not to do tuxes but we ordered a nice vest, and I did get to see him try it on. I've been showing him details and telling him about my dress, so it's not a big deal.

Remember, it will be different when it is all put together. I didn't get to see him wear his entire ensemble, and he hasn't seen the dress at all. So it'll still be a surprise!