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Am I obligated to invite her?

grrlnovembregrrlnovembre member
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A friend from college invited me to her wedding a few years ago. It was a small affair, so I felt privileged to be there. She has since moved 120 miles away, and I haven't talked to her but once or twice on Facebook since her wedding. I am getting married next spring.

Am I obligated to invite her to my wedding because she invited me to hers?

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  • amagwireamagwire
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    No, you're not required to invite anyone.  Things change in friendships, especially when a friend moves away and you don't keep a close friendship.  
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  • AdeleDazeemAdeleDazeem member
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    edited March 2010
    Nope*

    * Unless of course you've sent her a Save the Date for your wedding. 
      
    But if nothing has been sent out for yours and you are just feeling obligated because you went to her intimate wedding, then you don't have to invite her.

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  • lalap69lalap69 member
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    No, you're not obligated to invite her.
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  • trix1223trix1223 member
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    Nope.  My DD was in a friend's wedding.  3 years later, they hadn't talked at all in 2.5 years and now lived 600 miles appart.  Friend wasn't invited to the wedding.  Relationships change.  Life changes things.
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  • mewebster59mewebster59 member
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    have you two talked about the wedding??  Never obligated to invite anyone, but it may be nice depending...
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  • WhatawagSBNyWhatawagSBNy member
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       When you have not seen an old friend, or made a point to keep in touch by phone or letter, for 2-3 years, it is fine to drop them from invitation lists.

      The only reason to invite her would be if  you still feel a very strong emotional bond, in spite of years and distance,  and want to rekindle the friendship.  

       You obviously don't.

        Do send an announcement after the wedding.  This does not oblige her to send any gift or contact you.

        It is merely information.  Like a holiday card, it says you think of her now and again, and think she might want to know.  That is all.
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  • sophs_rosophs_ro
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    obligated? no.

    Don't feel bad if you don't but if you feel like you do want to invite her maybe it would rekindle the friendship, if you've not fallen out and just lost touch.

    But certainly don't feel like you have to :) 
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