Am I out of line?

aerinpegadrak

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Am I just being especially crabby, or is LowerEastSiide as awful as I think she is?

tldh

I will brag on one suit that I have (I have eight or nine right now, all high quality).  I found a $900 suit at Nordstroms a few years ago marked down because it was off season and on clearance and marked down again because the mid-calf length hem on the skirt was fraying.  I paid $230 for it and a seamstress cut the skirt to knee length for $15.

Three of my suits came from a Macy's that was going out of business because the mall was being torn down and they didn't want to shift the merchandise to a new store.  My friend called me and when I protested that I was flat broke growled, "get your credit card and get over here.  They are giving this stuff away."  I got three suits for less than $100 (full price around $1200 for the three).  She wasn't kidding that they were giving them away.

This is the kind of bragging I do.  I'll never admit to paying full price for anything.  I consider it a shopping failure.

LD1970

That's my kinda shopping!  

I have a pair of leather boots, "vintage" from the '80s when I was in high school... and now they're back in.  Ankle high black leather, with 4.5" stiletto heels & gold & silver leather embellishments... and I got 'em marked down a zillion times... for $5!

I don't know how far into South Jersey you are, but it used to be that the Memorial Day sidewalk sales at Woodbury Commons in NYS were killer for suit discounts.  I'm not sure if they're still there, but they had Kaspar, Jones NY, Armani, and Anne Klein outlet stores, and you could get serious suits for like $50-60.

My favorite, though, was the Jessica McClintock outlet that isn't there any more, unfortunately.  I had a wedding to go to, so mom took me up there (this was in '93 or so) and I got a $160 dress for $40!  Oh, and there was another $160 formal gown marked down to $20 that I was in love with... so I bought it with no occasion in mind.  I figured for $20, I'd wear it to McDonald's if I wanted to.  Turned out that when I graduated in '95, the law school had a formal dinner/dance at Tavern on the Green & I got to wear my $20 gown!

If only it still fit...

tldh

I'm just outside Philadelphia.  The dress I wore to The Barrister's Ball as a 3L (aka, Law School Prom) cost me $35 by the time I was finished.  I wore it again to a couple of New Years parties and when I was the Best Woman in my friend's wedding.

The ultimate shopping black belt best goes to a friend of mine (an attorney who married a dentist by the way and still refuses to spend money on things she can do herself) who found a gorgeous floor length mink coat at an estate sale for $80.  She also found a vintage coat with fox fur trim at a second hand store for $10.

My big coat find was when my grandmother told my mom to take the mink cuffs and collar off her coat and give them to me because I'd find a use for them. (mom came from money and to the chagrin of her family, married "down.") I looked at the coat itself and saw it was a high quality cashmere.  I took the whole thing, had a furrier work its magic on the fur and then took it to my seamstress to fix the Frankenstein stitching on one pocket and make the other match it so it would look intentional.  She not only did this, she took the coat apart and restitched the entire thing for me, all for $20.  You would not believe the compliments I get on this coat.

LD1970

Oh... see... now I need photos.

LD1970

Anyway... I just hit the wall.  Time for bed, ttytomorrow.

aerinpegadrak

Okay, I seriously can't respond in that thread anymore, or I'm gonna get banned.  Because, without exaggeration, I want to reach through my screen and punch her in the face.  See if you have money for a nose job, bitch.

megk8oz

Late to the party, but I deliberately stayed away after she  made the comment about how "being mentally disabled" is pretty much the only excuse to not "understand" that accepting the position of BM=being willing to spend $250 without blinking.

For as good as I am with verbal gymnastics (I can write one helluva poem, just ask Trix), there is just no way I could respond in that thread without it just turning into me flat out saying "You're a stupid twunt. I hope Anne Hathaway bedazzles your $6,000 dress and your mommy refuses to pay for a replacement". 

Eloquence and maturity are hardly my strong suit when completely blindsided by so much stupid.

aerinpegadrak

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_am-out-of-line?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:0328ac98-97d2-4858-80f6-61dd9a210b6ePost:84d1ef46-b0f1-4538-be60-143ec6e5eaba">Re: Am I out of line?</a>:
[QUOTE]this is pretty much a thread based on dissing LowerEastSlide... not that I agree with her... but this is why theknot.com message boards are so off-putting.
Posted by mkjpop[/QUOTE]
Oh, but her repeatedly bashing my wedding is okay?  People are only responding to what she started.

Manwaithiel

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_am-out-of-line?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:0328ac98-97d2-4858-80f6-61dd9a210b6ePost:84d1ef46-b0f1-4538-be60-143ec6e5eaba">Re: Am I out of line?</a>:
[QUOTE]this is pretty much a thread based on dissing LowerEastSlide... not that I agree with her... but this is why theknot.com message boards are so off-putting.
Posted by mkjpop[/QUOTE]

She is specifically targeting aerin's wedding with her comments. She totally needs a good firing squad. It's atrocious behavior and if it scares her away, then good riddance. You defending her at all is off-putting.

lalap69

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_am-out-of-line?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:0328ac98-97d2-4858-80f6-61dd9a210b6ePost:40e61bd3-5c9c-4f91-a330-6e32d4d34772">Re: Am I out of line?</a>:
[QUOTE]Okay, I seriously can't respond in that thread anymore, or I'm gonna get banned.  Because, without exaggeration, I want to reach through my screen and punch her in the face.  See if you have money for a nose job, bitch.
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]
I lol'd.

(And no, Aerin, I just read through that thread and I don't think you were overreacting at all.  She was way out of line.)

Manwaithiel

For what it's worth Aerin, I thought your flowers at your wedding were lovely. FI and I oohed and aahed over the pictures the other day. I would never have the patience to sit there and do origami flowers and they were so cool looking. For the theme you were going for, I think they're totally appropriate and florists are a rip off in my opinion.

And you don't need to respond to that thread anymore. She seems to be gone for now, but if she comes back, I'll continue playing with her. I'm rarring for a good fight cause I just had a wonderful job interview and I'm in a lovely mood. And sometimes when I'm in a good mood I like to fight with dummies on the internet. Don't ask why

Manwaithiel

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_am-out-of-line?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:0328ac98-97d2-4858-80f6-61dd9a210b6ePost:41346232-fd02-4c3d-9959-1b13fb2dcf10">Re: Am I out of line?</a>:
[QUOTE]Yay for wonderful moods!  Do let us know how the job interview turns out! And thanks for sticking up for my roses!  The thing is, those flowers ain't cheap.  Stuff like that goes on Etsy for something like $4/stem.  I could probably sell my bridal bouquet to someone else for like $75 easily.  I mean, yeah, they didn't cost me much other than a whole lot of time, but if you want someone else to do them for you, be prepared to pay.
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]

The interview went REALLY well and I have a follow up interview next week. It's looking really good!

That chick be crazy. She doesn't even know what a BM dress costs cause mommy always bought it for her. I don't know where she gets off telling people what is and is not reasonable.

aerinpegadrak

Aww, thanks, LD!  You make me blush.

tldh

LD is right.  You did a fabulous job.

How's the writing going?

LD1970

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_am-out-of-line?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:0328ac98-97d2-4858-80f6-61dd9a210b6ePost:0ea0c5e1-0ad7-4207-9205-5ff478d45b0e">Re: Am I out of line?</a>:
[QUOTE]Taking a bit of a break; I'm tired, but I haven't gone to bed behind on word count once all month and I don't want to start this close to the end, so I have another 200 words to milk out before I can sleep.  The next few days are going to be rough because I need to sort of set up a fake climax before my real one, and I'm not sure how to get there.  Basically, I need my hero to find concrete enough evidence that a particular guy hired hitmen against these two siblings that the guy can get arrested--except he's being framed.  What the evidence is or how they go about taking him out in a relatively satisfying way (they'll face off against the real bad guy at the end), I have no idea. 
Posted by aerinpegadrak[/QUOTE]
This sounds like something I seriously want to read.<div>
</div><div>And I wasn't kidding about the wedding.  It looked fabulous.</div>

aerinpegadrak

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_am-out-of-line?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:0328ac98-97d2-4858-80f6-61dd9a210b6ePost:986cfcdc-9699-4817-b398-b562eca8a8db">Re: Am I out of line?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Am I out of line? : This sounds like something I seriously want to read. And I wasn't kidding about the wedding.  It looked fabulous.
Posted by LD1970[/QUOTE]
Aww, you're the sweetest.  I'm still not sure what I'm going to be doing with this manuscript once it's done (six days to go!), but if I need some extra eyes to look it over, I'll let you guys know.

LD1970

I'd love that!

JadziaDax

OK I'm chiming in really late but reading that post made me so angry. What a snob! And LD you are 100% right. $1,300 in that area will get you a one bedroom apartment- if you are lucky!
That thing did not know what she was talking about. When I came to the knot, I will admit that I felt like I didn't belong here because judging from the bio's it seemed everyone had these lavish/ expensive weddings and it felt out of my league. I later found out that most of the weddings I thought were $20,000+ were actually budget weddings.
I hope to God that she is a troll because I feel disgusted living in the same state as her.