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Sousa8611

i don't want anyone to get the wrong impression from the start..

The salon my friend works at is within minutes of the church (she's doing my hair). I don't have the budget to pay for bm (5) hair/makeup, but I'm not requiring them to get it done professionally. If they decide to get it done there it's ok but if they don't that's ok too. It's an early wedding (11am) so I figured it'd be easier to do it all at the same place together instead of scattered around town. I'm offering to tip the stylist who work on them. Should I be doing more? (I'm a hair dresser too so I'm not going to jip the stylists).

kimp67

I don't think you need to do more since you aren't requiring it. As it gets time for me to make my appointment I'll ask my wp if they want me to make the appointment for them when I make mine.  I'm pretty sure only my MOH & 1 bm will be going where I go, 1bm is going where she always goes, 1 is doing her own & I'm not sure what the other is doing yet.

jagore08

No, you don't need to do more but you should also let the ladies do their hair where they are comfortable.  Some may want to style their own or go to their own stylist.

mbcdefg

I think it's absolutely fine to say, "I'm going to X Salon near the church to get my hair done. If you want to join me there, I will cover the tip for you but you're on your own for the fee. Otherwise, please feel free to go to your own salon or style your own hair, but please be sure to meet at [getting-ready location] by [time] so we can get dressed and take photos."

And for what it's worth, my two BMs and I each went to a different salon in town. We all met at my parents' house at a designated time to start with makeup and getting dressed. Everything worked out fine. Just set up a timeline and build in some cushion time.

Summer2011Bride

I think you are fine. I cannot afford to pay for my BM's hair/makeup so I am not requiring they come to my salon or even get it done at all. Some will prefer to do their own and that is fine. I think offering to cover the tip is more than enough. Just make it clear (in a polite way) that you are ONLY covering tip if they go there, NOT the fee. You don't want it to be unclear and have an awkward conversation on the wedding day. I think what the PP suggested is good.

bablingbrooke

So long as you make it clear that they can go elsewhere and you're not paying beyond the tip, you're fine.  But it would be wrong to "strongly suggest" they use it, since many BMs would take it as a requirement.  Have you tried negotiating a lower rate with the salon for them?  

My BMs got their hair done at different places--two got them done at their own stylists' two hours away and drove up for the wedding.  The other two did their own.  I went to my own stylist across town.  Everyone made it to the reception site for photos by 2:30.  Trust that everyone will arrive on time if they get their hair done elsewhere or do their own.

aerinpegadrak

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[QUOTE]i don't want anyone to get the wrong impression from the start.. The salon my friend works at is within minutes of the church (she's doing my hair). I don't have the budget to pay for bm (5) hair/makeup, but I'm not requiring them to get it done professionally. If they decide to get it done there it's ok but if they don't that's ok too. It's an early wedding (11am) so<strong> I figured it'd be easier to do it all at the same place together instead of scattered around town.</strong> I'm offering to tip the stylist who work on them. Should I be doing more? (I'm a hair dresser too so I'm not going to jip the stylists).
Posted by Sousa8611[/QUOTE]
I thought this too, and I had six girls.  So I shopped around for months, cut the budget drastically in other places, and did everything necessary to ensure that I could afford to cover it for all of them.  It was worth it for the convenience factor of having someone come to all of us.

Also, "gyp" is a racial slur that you should remove from your vocabulary.